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Tuesday, January 14, 2020
The evolution and non-evolution of the r-word
Dave and I are still making it through the final season of Orange is the New Black and yes, I realize how pathetic that is. In one episode, inmate Tiffany Doggett gets a G.E.D. practice test back from a teacher. The teacher points out that she copied answers from another inmate, except she transposed some letters. He asks her if gets dizzy when she stares at maps and she acknowledges that she does. He tells her that he thinks she has a learning disability. She looks dismayed.
"I am not...r-word," she says in an uncharacteristically soft voice.
He informs her that signs point to her being dyslexic, and a diagnosis is good because once they know it they can get help. He tells her about well-known people with dyslexia: Steve Jobs, Whoopi Goldberg, Tom Cruise, Henry Winkler. They bond over their mutual affection for Sister Act.
Back at the end of Season 1, I remember flinching when Nicki auditioned for the prison pageant with a joke that ended this way: "And finally, the penguin goes, 'He's not an eggplant, he's retarded!"
Now the show's writers know better than to use the word. That's progress. And yet, not so much. This character flinches at the thought of having a learning disability, and that's sure not doing any favors for people like my Max. Once again, the idea is being perpetuated that a disability is Not Good.
Is it in character for Tiffany to have this sort of response? Sure. But since when is this show realistic? Couldn't the writers have had Tiffany express her dismay without even referring to the r-word? Well, sure they could have—they are writers, after all.
Some things have changed in the eight years since I did the Twitter experiment where I asked people to reconsider their use of the r-word. Most people I know now get it, and I don't overhear teens using it like I used to when I'm out. Still, it pops up on social media. The New York Giants ditched player Janoris Jenkins after he called a fan that word on Twitter; he defended himself by saying that where he was from, they use all kinds of words as slang and apologized for offending someone.
Those of us who have spoken out about the r-word over the years have often been subject to dissension along the lines of "If not that word, then another will take its place." That's true, to be sure. Still, the underlying point is being aware of how we perceive and talk about people with intellectual disability. The dramedy The Peanut Butter Falcon (which deserved an Academy Award nomination, dangit!) does a great job of portraying the humanity of disability—as in, people with intellectual disability are full-fledged human beings with hopes, dreams, senses of humors and even strong drives to party.
Enough with the depiction of disability as undesired, sad and tragic. Here's hoping Hollywood can keep it more real.
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I'm amazed by the amount of people I know that still use the word. A young woman that I mentored at church, our bishop, my sister-in-law (right in front of me know clearly knows her niece has disabilities), and even friends on Facebook. I'm really amazed by how prevalent it still is, and I want to be better about actually speaking up and saying something when I hear it. That's something that I really need to work on if I actually want to change anything.
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Oh, wow. I am sorry to hear that. I once did a post on how to respond when you hear someone saying the word, maybe it will be helpful: https://www.lovethatmax.com/2015/03/spread-the-word-to-end-the-word-2015.html
DeleteUntil we start comparing the "r-word" with the "n-word" and just comment 99% of the time one word is used out of context and the other is the "n-word. This will happen over and over again. I think we have tried all kinds of approaches, it's long past time to try to start a new approach!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat if a show or Youtube video were to have a character use the word, and then another explain why that was not OK? Could that possibly be more effective than leaving it out altogether (while others continue to use it obliviously?) Or perhaps it is still too difficult to hear. Just a thought.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great idea! I'd guess that, sadly, some Hollywood scriptwriters aren't into teachable moments. The ones who wrote Orange is the New Black clearly weren't.
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