Wednesday, June 26, 2013

A moment of serious mom bliss

"Girls! Stop fighting!" was a common refrain heard in our house growing up. My sister and I fought a lot over everything from who got the bigger slice of cake to turning out the lights at bedtime (we shared a room and I was a night owl).

At times, my mom seemed to deeply despair when we went at it. I never fully understood why until I had kids of my own, and realized how awful it can be to watch your children do battle.

For me, there's a whole other level of concern involved. I mean, it's good to see the kids acting like typical siblings, assuming they don't permanently disfigure each other. I like that Sabrina doesn't baby Max, and that Max can defend himself. Even from an early age, when he had so much difficulty manipulating his hands, he was amazingly accurate when he'd swipe Sabrina's pacifier out of her mouth.

But it pains me to see Sabrina being mean to him, or just plain ignoring him. It's normal, of course. Yet it's the opposite of what I yearn for: That she'll be kind to him. That she'll help him if he needs it, without prompting from me.

I do not expect Sabrina to care for Max; she's only 8, and I'd never put that responsibility on her still-growing shoulders. Sometimes, sure, I'll ask her to do small things, like picking up something for him if he's having trouble. Or when Max is saying something I don't understand, I'll ask her if she does. But when she does something for him on her own, that's just bliss.

Lately, I've seen spurts of it. She's been helping Max play on the Wii. She printed out Lighting McQueen pictures from the web at his request. This week, though, I saw the most amazing thing yet. We're on vacation at a resort, and we were in a little pool with a waterfall. It was Max's idea to venture in, despite the roaring sound, but then he was too scared to walk through it.

So Sabrina picked Max up and carried him through, both of them cracking up. Me, I laughed and laughed, for a different reason: I was so amazingly happy to see her doing that. And then, feeling brave because his sister had shown him the way, Max walked through all by himself.


  1. awww, that is beautiful and amazing! Thanks for sharing!!

  2. That's beautiful! Sabrina reminds me of my sister my mom went to india a couple of times without the rest of us my sister helped me when I needed it. My siblings are awesome when people stare at me they get more angry about it than I do I end up having to calm them down LOL :)

    1. Love hearing this. I hope Sabrina defends Max like that someday!

  3. How wonderful! I love how my other three care for Sarah too!

  4. Ellen, this is such a sweet moment!! It reminds me of growing up with my sister. I know our relationship was different because of my disability, but i always appreciated that she never treated me like i had a disability. she still doesn't.

    still, like sabrina, she was so helpful, especially when it came to things i couldn't do. i'm so grateful for her and our special bond!

  5. I hope Sabrina shows many more moments like this xx pepper is nicknamed mini bron by Cooper as she's his second mum but more fun! ;)

  6. Love this! I can totally relate to the bliss feeling! My oldest daughter has become her sisters therapy buddy this summer, and hasn't complained once! Let's hope the trend continues! :)

  7. What a sweet girl Max has for a sister!

  8. Awww I love this way to go Sabrina

  9. I absolutely love this post! Beautiful...

  10. Love it! A vacation made even better by a fabulous moment! :)
    Can't wait till you get home and we can find out where this beautiful waterfall pool was. Love planning trips (whether we end up going on them or not!)


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