How can a kid get so big in just one week?

Max returned from his week at camp looking older. It wasn't like he'd sprouted a beard or anything and I'm pretty sure they don't infuse the chocolate milk with growth hormones there, but still, he looked like a lot bigger. So I'm going to assume that a) Max is inching up and b) I don't realize this because I see him daily and c) I am in denial.

Max's awesome counselor from last year, Kirsten, requested Max. As soon as he saw her he started laughing and laughing, which is what he does when he's really excited.

Unlike last year, I did not call the camp repeatedly and neurotically until someone called me back. I knew Max was happy there, and that he was most likely having the time of his life, and that Kirsten was looking after him. And sure enough...

I am submitting the above one to the Polo Ralph Lauren people, because I think Max has missed his calling as a polo model. 

Meanwhile, I missed him terribly this whole week. I kept wondering what he was doing, and whether he was thinking about us. The house felt empty without him. 

"Do you miss Max a lot?" I'd ask Sabrina. 

"No," she'd say, with feeling.

But deep down, I knew she did. 

It was nice to give Sabrina lots of one-on-one time and special treats—we rented "her" DVDs from Redbox, got oatmeal cookie ice-cream, played Pengoloo, looked through her baby photo albums, and let her get oversize gumballs from whatever machines she found.

We also let her crash in our bed a few times, because this wouldn't be our lives if at least one kid wasn't sleeping with us. Someday, I am going to be dozing off in the nursing home and I will awake to find Max or Sabrina in my bed. 

When we arrived at the camp to pick Max up and he saw me, he ran toward me, half laughing and half crying. I swooped him up and he nestled into me and breathed into my neck in that make-me-melt way he does.

And can I say how happy I felt? He is getting bigger. But he is still my baby. 

Camps for kids with special needs: Max is doing two!

Max's summer plans are set: He's returning to the one-week camp for kids with special needs that he went to last year, and loved. I'm particularly excited about the inclusive day camp he'll also be attending. He's going to miss two weeks of his school summer program, but Dave and I decided it was worth it—both for the inclusionary experience and for fun.

I was so psyched to find this program, because they're rare. While it's possible to work out an arrangement with a local day camp, several told me I'd need provide the aide and I wasn't sure I could find someone great. A couple of times, the fact that Max isn't full potty-trained was non-negotiable. This camp provides a "shadow" who will help with caregiving and keep an eye on Max, but she'll seem like just another counselor to other kids. This camp is really bent on making sure kids with special needs seamlessly fit in.

I got to meet Max's shadow this week at a pre-camp meeting. She's a college sophomore studying neuroscience who has childcare experience, and she seemed all kinds of awesome. I gave her the rundown on Max's likes and dislikes, gushed about how social he is, promised her she'd fall in love with him. I've already asked the director I can also shadow/spy on Max at some point when he's there; I'm so eager to see how things are going to go.

At the meeting, all parents were asked to fill out a "Hopes and Dreams" sheet. I wrote, "Max has never participated in an inclusive program before. What I most want is for him to have fun playing with other kids, interact with them and communicate with them—and for them to do it right back."

Below, some resources for finding local camps for kids with special needs. There might still be spots open but if not, at least you can scout ones for next summer.

Very Special Camps lists camps and programs for people with special needs around the country; you can browse by disability or by state.

KidsCamps.com also lists camps by state and specifies the types of disabilities accommodated.

My Summer Camps lists camps by disability, which you can then filter by state.

Easter Seals Disability Services has 140 accessible camps around the country—for adults, too.

Family Village has a lengthy list of camps and programs nationwide.

Therapy/Respite Camps for Kids has a list divvied up by region.

Cristo Vive International provides camp programs for children with disabilities around the world; there are a few locations in this country.

Foundation For Jewish Camp has a list of camps for Jewish children with special needs.


Photo/Peter Blanchard