Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Dealing with an irresponsible partner: group therapy
"I have two kids, one with special needs, and an adult child I have to stay on top of—as in, my husband," writes a reader. "He is overall a very hands-on dad who plays with the kids, takes them to activities and helps our son eat, bathe and get dressed. I'm grateful for that. That said, I am the parent who usually handles all therapist and doctor appointments, including booking them and taking our son. And there are a lot of appointments. Sometimes, I need my husband to step in, and this is where things go wrong. First I have to regularly remind him to schedule the appointment, which can take him weeks to get around to, then I have to make sure he actually brings our son as he has accidentally skipped visits in the past. (In case you're wondering, he is like this in other parts of our life, too; I have to ask him to do things numerous times, whether it's paying bills or getting something fixed in our house.) Like I said, it's wonderful how great he is with the kids, but I just can't handle being the only person handling our son's therapies and doctor visits, and I resent it. And yes, I have told him how I feel about this but nothing has changed. What can I do?"
OK, wise readers, advise away.
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