tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post7846938097393391108..comments2024-03-17T12:02:12.410-04:00Comments on Love That Max : Is your pause button broken? Ellen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-21837193288304559332018-03-13T14:44:22.283-04:002018-03-13T14:44:22.283-04:00Hi! I am just as fastidious, I can't stand a m...Hi! I am just as fastidious, I can't stand a messy house or an ever growing pile of laundry. My husband is great at making me relax, but not as effective otherwise. After our second child was born, I realized that I had not only become overwhelmed and stressed, but, sadly, also very resentful. I started fearing for my marriage. BUT.... we took the best decision ever: we hired a live-in help, a lovely lady who quickly became part of our family. Fifteen years later, she is still with us. We travelled a bit less, we bought less fancy clothes.... but we never had to argue over house work, and to us it is totally worth it! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-53952561873675740382018-03-13T13:52:33.625-04:002018-03-13T13:52:33.625-04:00Whatever you want to call it, I hope you don't...Whatever you want to call it, I hope you don't let the demands to "relax" or "slow down" become another burden. <br /><br />I am not you -- I have a great pause button and always have. My ever present worry is that this would have made me less of a warrior on behalf of my child, if they needed it. This person that you are, without a pause button, is the same characteristic that has made you such an effective advocate for Max. I once had a children's hospital doctor describe the phenomenon to me -- that there were parents who gave up, who needed to be supported in every step of the way, when faced with health challenges for their child. And then, there were parents like you who found the strength to be there for their child in every way they needed. <br /><br />I'm glad Dave took you off for a break from what might feel like a hamster wheel (but isn't, because the work you are accomplishing is important, not running in circles). <br /><br />Maybe there are other ways of finding a break? Like, ordering TP on Amazon subscriptions, hiring someone to do pickup around the house, scheduling some time for yourself and using it to do whatever *you* want (including ordering party favors, if that's what you want to do)?zbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205346985598789513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-87266301923739337452018-03-13T10:29:49.216-04:002018-03-13T10:29:49.216-04:00There are times where I wish I could be more like ...There are times where I wish I could be more like you. It might be my age (I just hit the big 60!) or just my personality. When I'm tired I have to go to bed. I don't care if the dishwasher will only take 5 minutes to unload, or that there are clothes to be folded. My house is undoubtedly messier than yours. But the big question is, does either extreme really work? Not for me. I need some of your got-to-get-it-done'ness :-) <br /><br />PS - I hope Sabrina will let you share about her bat mitzvah. Max's was so beautiful.Janetnoreply@blogger.com