tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post6667171683210954301..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : The double life I lead as a parentEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-77377415988705081862010-09-19T19:59:47.914-04:002010-09-19T19:59:47.914-04:00I'll never know the "typical" side o...I'll never know the "typical" side of parenting, and I'm OK with it. In my old age, I can only keep straight one way of doing things anyway.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10901229142046583059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-46298352410665717642010-09-18T11:50:37.428-04:002010-09-18T11:50:37.428-04:00Great post, and absolutely parallel to my life as ...Great post, and absolutely parallel to my life as well! Now that my daughter is in kindergarten I'm really getting a taste of what I hear the "normals" talk about. Honestly, I feel there's more pressure in "that" particular life than in the SN world of mine. I don't hear my boys complaining they want something another child has...and I'm not given assumed duties for sending in treats and other commitments- there's seems to be a sort of competitiveness in the "normals" school that I never experienced in the SN school too. <br /><br />And like Kathy said above, I feel like my heart is really in the twins' activities and school duties while my daughter's are seeming more to me like obligations. I plan to even that out somehow!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-25136621505763886342010-09-17T13:35:54.334-04:002010-09-17T13:35:54.334-04:00I wonder if the order makes a difference in percep...I wonder if the order makes a difference in perception, too. My older kid couldn't be more "typical" in pretty much every way, but I always thought of her as "special" in a very different sense of the word than I do now with my ASD son. I think had he come first, I would have marveled more at the ordinariness of the issues we face with her (which are no less important for that fact, of course). <br /><br />Still, it's all about having to rethink the expectations, use a different reality when you're dealing with one kid versus the other. In that sense, we're all doing the same juggling act!TChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09490117693253485044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-85255797337494619272010-09-17T12:31:37.566-04:002010-09-17T12:31:37.566-04:00I say this all the time, that we are raising two s...I say this all the time, that we are raising two species of children, although they are so alike in so many ways. and you are right, it makes parenting more fulfilling I believe. at least to me.<br />KristenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-63892808299034608972010-09-17T10:15:26.903-04:002010-09-17T10:15:26.903-04:00So true! I honestly feel like a first time mom wit...So true! I honestly feel like a first time mom with my typically developing daughter sometimes. I remember her first pediatrician appt, the dr was like, "OK, see you in a month!" I was stunned. That's it???<br /><br />Also agreed with the richness we have in our "double lives." We appreciate the big and small in ways I don't think other moms do.Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13640322135525371672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-61637366955451423382010-09-17T07:29:56.718-04:002010-09-17T07:29:56.718-04:00I totally get this.I totally get this.Melanie https://www.blogger.com/profile/10523026102207613431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-4440848152821575532010-09-17T01:58:32.989-04:002010-09-17T01:58:32.989-04:00This post hits on a kind of mommy guilt I've b...This post hits on a kind of mommy guilt I've been feeling lately (and hadn't been expecting). <br /><br />Everything I do for my daughter feels so easy. I don't have to put much thought into it because there are not as many things to deal with. I am so intentional with my son who has CP, I feel like I am cheating my daughter of the same care and intention.~kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13066694365574584635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-24968486515076761222010-09-16T23:21:55.497-04:002010-09-16T23:21:55.497-04:00Look at Sabrina! What a sweet picture! How wond...Look at Sabrina! What a sweet picture! How wonderful that she is doing so well at school. <br /><br />And good for Max, trotting along so successfully on his own path. <br /><br />All things in time!Felicianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1624611719804387332010-09-16T22:54:29.082-04:002010-09-16T22:54:29.082-04:00Wow, Kindergarten! Sabrina's really growing u...Wow, Kindergarten! Sabrina's really growing up fast, huh? <br /><br />All the best to you, Dave, Max, and of course Sabrina :) I hope to see you all soon!<br /><br />- RAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04111350281918492504noreply@blogger.com