tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post6663703040504227033..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : The lady who's about to destroy Halloween (that would be me)Ellen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-35612404589577856922013-04-12T12:46:30.280-04:002013-04-12T12:46:30.280-04:00Desiree I dont agree. People like you lack tact an...Desiree I dont agree. People like you lack tact and perspective. I dont see how walking around house to house without costume is "weird". So your view is that the emailer is allowed to be a judgemental twat is it? tharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06178926420365797564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-15141903573087607952013-04-12T12:42:43.205-04:002013-04-12T12:42:43.205-04:00Desiree I dont agree. The commentator was quite ru...Desiree I dont agree. The commentator was quite rude. It does make sense to me and I hope I never have a neighbour like you or the commentator. People like you lack tact and perspective. tharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06178926420365797564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19514474727471361842012-10-22T11:12:52.122-04:002012-10-22T11:12:52.122-04:00I know this comment is a couple of years late, but...I know this comment is a couple of years late, but in reading the email, I have to wonder if the emailer herself might have special needs.<br /><br />I mean, it's such a silly thing to get worked up over; anyone adult who has spent time around kids knows about individual differences, and how goofy they can get at holidays; that's a weird thing to take a hard, rigid stand on; there aren't crazy religious factors involved; AND, she took the time to write you about it. Twice!<br /><br />So many milder conditions weren't diagnosed or treated when we were kids, it just makes me wonder about Asperger's, or a mental illness if some kind. Could be she wasn't even aware her remarks would be hurtful.<br /><br />And I'm definitely not excusing her, or minimizing your hurt feelings. She was rude and wrong. Sometimes it is just a little comforting to think it may really be her problem, that's the way she functions in the world, and it really wasn't personal or representative of NT society at large.<br /><br />Congratulations on the publication by the way... And your kids are adorable!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-51439293684531486302010-12-01T12:07:05.461-05:002010-12-01T12:07:05.461-05:00I am a fan of Motherlode in fact I came to this bl...I am a fan of Motherlode in fact I came to this blogadinkl because I read your excerpt there. I think the Redbook lady was rude and ridiculous but..... don't give her a reaction.<br /><br />To recall a touch of junior high drama: Once a mean girl decided to have her B'Day party the same day as mine. And yes she KNEW! I said " Good for you" (w/ out a hint of sarcasm) and she actually ASKED me why I wasn't upset.<br /><br />PSBTW the motherlode author says her son did the same thing and he doesn't have special needsSparklesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-9743222101022502802010-11-09T22:17:59.481-05:002010-11-09T22:17:59.481-05:00Give us her email address! PLEASE! Us parents of...Give us her email address! PLEASE! Us parents of sensory children will give this "person" a piece of our minds! Love your blog and I totally support you supporting your children in their Halloween choices.WilliamsMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07523607154801921779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1792269431842787582010-10-28T19:19:29.721-04:002010-10-28T19:19:29.721-04:00Ha! I thought hte same thing... did she READ the p...Ha! I thought hte same thing... did she READ the piece?? The older sibling is the one BEING empathetic!!<br /><br />I heart ya, go girl... wicked witch and all that... <br /><br />PS my husband is going to be a witch this year... I'll think of you. :)Carissa(GoodNCrazy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10938083747263796905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-75715877323405623112010-10-21T19:18:11.213-04:002010-10-21T19:18:11.213-04:00Last year, and the year before for that matter, my...Last year, and the year before for that matter, my daughter wore costumes... This year, with more self-awareness, more sensory issues, and more (though still very limited) communication we TRIED several. Yes, I did say several. Not to torture her, but because there were reasons that each did not work. Now, she will go in Skeleton PJ's or a Halloween Tee shirt. I fail to see why making it easier on her is a bad thing on a holiday that is supposed to be fun.Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-2940976914805935062010-10-18T09:32:01.281-04:002010-10-18T09:32:01.281-04:00I salute you and your children.
And I do say BOOO...I salute you and your children.<br /><br />And I do say BOOOOO (pun intended) to the commenter!<br /><br />Finally, I will add that here in Chicago, as in many colder climates, 9.9 times out of 10 you cannot even see/tell what the costumes are, given the fact that they are hidden under many layers of jacket, coat, etc.<br /><br />The "spirit" of Halloween is about generosity, not judgment....if you do not want to be generous, by all means turn your lights out and do not answer the door!<br /><br />Signed, Olivia's MomOliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346363930786093405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-92013588642646995702010-10-14T18:01:01.235-04:002010-10-14T18:01:01.235-04:00My son, who was born with Down syndrome, has an Oc...My son, who was born with Down syndrome, has an Oct 31 birthday. His slightly older sister went trick or treating for the first time saying "Happy Birthday!" at each door. Then on March 11, she wanted to go get candy from the neighbors for *her* birthday. To help her understand the tradition, I took her to the neighbors' doors, explaining her misperception. She picked up some great candy that birthday. <br />The next year, she said "Trick or Treat" at each door, but again visited the neighbors on March 11th. The third year, she explained to me that her brother's birthday happened to fall on Halloween, so there was no reason to visit the neighbors on March 11. I had to tell her that we had already planned the event and the neighbors were looking forward to it. I wonder if that neighborhood still celebrates March 11th, years after we moved away. They had the true Halloween spirit! No matter what the date might be. <br />The gal who insists you are out to destroy Halloween should visit the Pacific Northwest for the big day. We are fortunate to see any part of a costume under umbrellas and raincoats or down jackets.<br />Good luck on your efforts to destroy Halloween for mean people! And don't forget to celebrate March 11th in your own way, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-24543268942321924772010-10-12T01:18:56.023-04:002010-10-12T01:18:56.023-04:00I lived in a small hick town for a short time wher...I lived in a small hick town for a short time where there were actually rules for Halloween, but they were rules about what time you could go out trick or treating. I was like, what in the world? I'm used to kids coming all times of the night, houses being egged, teens wearing a hat to get candy. You know, Halloween. <br /><br />Maybe that person needs to move there and make some more rules for this major holiday. I mean it would be a national catastrophe if we sent out our kids without costumes! Imagine the horror when babies pull off their Halloween bibs! What about when kids in wheelchairs decorate their chairs instead of wearing a costume? I'm scared to think about what she'd do if a child's costume ripped before they reached her door! <br /><br />You rock Ellen :)ConnieFoggleshttp://brainfoggles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-29053856531256589842010-10-11T21:27:06.818-04:002010-10-11T21:27:06.818-04:00Thx for all the encouraging words, all. Desiree, I...Thx for all the encouraging words, all. Desiree, I sure hope someone gives you a sense of humor for the holidays. And Kelly, I'm going to see how Halloween goes and if I've successfully destroyed it, I will go on to Christmas, Hanukkah and Kwanzaa, too.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-82154903356358537652010-10-11T15:35:30.889-04:002010-10-11T15:35:30.889-04:00Thank you for giving me a reason to laugh out loud...Thank you for giving me a reason to laugh out loud today--I love your blog (I have a son with CP as well, and some days it's a stretch to find something to laugh about)!<br /><br />BTW, are you planning to ruin Christmas too? I can only hope...kellyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12388048480585212719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-10902920696596509012010-10-11T14:51:20.956-04:002010-10-11T14:51:20.956-04:00I don't care if Max is special needs or not, w...I don't care if Max is special needs or not, what you choose to do to celebrate a holiday is your business. But, because you are the parent of a child who has sensory issues the last thing you want to do is put him in clothing that he won't be comfortable in. And, y'know what -- I bet your neighbors know Max and wouldn't care if he came to their house in his underpants<br /><br />If someone has rules about whom they give candy to on Halloween, they've got a problem. Sure, I think it's appropriate that at least the child say trick or treat and thank you but, guess what, they're kids! We're not their mouthpiece. We can prompt them when they are little but if they don't want to say it then no amount of us forcing them is going to make that happen.<br /><br />In a world where we accommodate every darn stranger, what's wrong with accommodating our own kids every once in awhile. It's not like you said you'd allow Max to carry your 12" Chef's knife because you've abdicated parenting to his choices and he wants to be Freddy Krueger. It's not like you have thrown up your hands and said 'Halloween, be damned!'. <br /><br />No, you've determined what's best for your child.<br /><br />And for all other parents whose children have pulled off all their clothing and decide to run thru Target in their diaper with mom yelling behind them, call 911 and throw that mom in jail for violating the rules of parenting.<br /><br />Evidently, when their child was born they got a book on How to Be the Perfect Parent. Guess you were too busy taking a crash course in medical school to read that book.<br /><br />If they don't like that you love your son so much (and your daughter too) to allow them to carve out their unique niche in a holiday that basically amounts to begging for candy, they can, as Kathy Griffin is fond of saying 'Suck It'.<br /><br />Rock on, Ellen!Sara (from Saving for Someday)http://savingforsomeday.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-70770710174512292962010-10-10T08:58:13.456-04:002010-10-10T08:58:13.456-04:00For us the issue has never been costumes, but the ...For us the issue has never been costumes, but the whole door protocol. You go to a door, ring the bell and then when they open the door... you go in, right? That's how it usually works. And saying "trick or treat" and "thank you" over and over again loudly and to strangers is exhausting. He wants to go out, but we peter-out pretty quickly for an 11yo. <br /><br />We all do our best. How about a little "benefit of the doubt" if you see someone not doing thins by the book. Jeeze!A BCPSS Parenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06457102026135990514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-70570841958217961402010-10-09T09:43:23.115-04:002010-10-09T09:43:23.115-04:00Just remember Wednesday Addams said when asked abo...Just remember Wednesday Addams said when asked about her costume."I'm a homicidal maniac. They look just like everyone else."Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08986080963534940625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-22106669712530806472010-10-08T23:13:55.941-04:002010-10-08T23:13:55.941-04:00Seriously people need to get a freaking life. Peop...Seriously people need to get a freaking life. People need to have an opinion about every darn thing and then have the audacity to make these rude statements. She makes me so irritated that I really wish she gets "treated" this year. <br /><br />You, mama, are amazing and I love that you roll with the punches and don't try to force a child into things to please idiots like her.nirihttp://www.mommyniri.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-23940593380353194512010-10-08T20:25:57.396-04:002010-10-08T20:25:57.396-04:00You know, the email commenter might just be an ali...You know, the email commenter might just be an alias for the reclusive North Korean Leader, Kim Jong Il, or maybe Mahmoud Ahmadinejad; possibly both working together to undermine America's best families. <br /><br />I can't believe anyone would be so mean spirited or crazy!<br /><br />All the best to you and your family Ellen. We love your blog. <br /><br />Congratulations on getting published in Redbook.David Sextonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02556969930448666864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-72623709188839303812010-10-08T14:44:20.368-04:002010-10-08T14:44:20.368-04:00We as mothers are always finding ways to make our ...We as mothers are always finding ways to make our children happy (despite the judgments constantly being passed on us), and I think it's awesome that you found a way to still make Halloween enjoyable for you and your children. If we moms had to always take into consideration the feelings of every other person on the planet when raising our children, we would be so overwhelmed with guilt we'd never get out of bed in the morning. So, like almost everyone else on your blog has said, good for you, boo to the other mom, and don't worry, you AREN'T ruining Halloween for the rest of the free world!Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14529069092726781421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1209344762588808952010-10-08T12:31:05.665-04:002010-10-08T12:31:05.665-04:00I think the commenter makes an excellent point and...I think the commenter makes an excellent point and your response was actually rather snarky. Trick or treating is about getting dressed up in costume. If you don't want to wear a costume, then don't go trick or treating. It doesn't make any sense otherwise. Walking around from house to house without a costume would be weird. Also, if you look at her response she wasn't calling your kids rude but rather the idea of going trick or treating out of costume rude.Desireenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-70093111853653545272010-09-27T14:15:39.305-04:002010-09-27T14:15:39.305-04:00What I *really* don't like are the moms that d...What I *really* don't like are the moms that drive their kids to our neighborhood and sit in the car while all 5 of the kids, none in costume, ask for candy. I wouldn't mind it if it wasn't about 10 families every year. One or two kids, no problem. And there's always an group of uncostumed teens showing up. I want to say "No, sorry, if you could even put on a towel as a cape I'm not giving you candy" but they intimidate me!Lesleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-66969042919690405542010-09-26T13:24:30.742-04:002010-09-26T13:24:30.742-04:00That's hilarious. Halloween always brings out ...That's hilarious. Halloween always brings out the crazies doesn't it? <br /><br />Heh, it's rude and boring. What's rude and boring is going out of your way to tell someone they're rude and boring. I don't want the mean lady's candy anyway. <br /><br />God forbid our kids with special powers (also known as awesomeness) enjoy a holiday. Bite me crazy halloween lady.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15881590483174001768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-82823857164584534072010-09-25T02:44:25.494-04:002010-09-25T02:44:25.494-04:00Wow. The pumpkin is so deflated. That's absolu...Wow. The pumpkin is so deflated. That's absolutely ridiculous. I'm shaking my head and and laughing.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-53424282039012247492010-09-24T17:28:38.694-04:002010-09-24T17:28:38.694-04:00Makes my head spin!Makes my head spin!Meriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495074138385568379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-21166732098354232562010-09-24T14:18:43.601-04:002010-09-24T14:18:43.601-04:00Sounds like this emailer needs some Xanax with the...Sounds like this emailer needs some Xanax with their fun-size candy bars this year.Beatricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848739034529262981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-49962103222064748352010-09-24T12:31:44.927-04:002010-09-24T12:31:44.927-04:00If that emailer wasnt so ignorant she would see th...If that emailer wasnt so ignorant she would see that all children are different, and what is a good time for some isnt for others. She is so gung ho on Halloween, but she might ruin it for my child when she stands at the door instead of first letting my obsessed child ring the door bell first...not letting him ring the door bell just ruins it for him, but I dont go around and complain to every participating home owner that doesnt let him do that....or in that fact to those that dont walk out to my other child that is in a wheelchair and cant go to their door. I mean come on everyone does things in different ways and some call in typical, and some call it quirky. The rude ones are the ones that knit pick about every little thing that isnt to their liking!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16274847603392804719noreply@blogger.com