tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post4150238519533916156..comments2024-03-17T12:02:12.410-04:00Comments on Love That Max : The gigantic question hanging over my head about his futureEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-24391471452467681552016-12-10T07:49:33.480-05:002016-12-10T07:49:33.480-05:00I don't have a suggestion for right now BUT
...I don't have a suggestion for right now BUT<br /><br />Just because YOU might have to choose between say realistic expectations and high expectations...DOESN'T mean that Sabrina will have to for her kids or Max or Ben will have to for their kids.<br /><br />Sort Max out then figure out what's missing in your neighbourhood then get cracking and build it! Life is always more complicated than that of course but even the longest journey starts with a single step.<br /><br />Autistic Against Antivaxxershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04529371929000018264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-57023071118769442122016-11-27T14:40:24.405-05:002016-11-27T14:40:24.405-05:00For Texas parents and other family members of stud...For Texas parents and other family members of students and adults with special needs my organization has spent 7 years figuring out how families can plan for independent living of their loved one: txcpsh.org/cpshguideRobin LeoGrandehttp://txcpsh.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-43604104454384117842016-11-07T11:03:18.894-05:002016-11-07T11:03:18.894-05:00FYI this is the HS in my district, maybe they call...FYI this is the HS in my district, maybe they call it something different in NJ?? (we call it Vocational HS here in MA)<br />http://minuteman.org/Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13012002151975859000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-46739689845040856272016-11-06T21:57:04.088-05:002016-11-06T21:57:04.088-05:00AZ, thank you for that bit of inspiration! You'...AZ, thank you for that bit of inspiration! You're awesome. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-11595095059463394592016-11-06T21:56:29.256-05:002016-11-06T21:56:29.256-05:00I have never heard of that option—that sounds real...I have never heard of that option—that sounds really cool. I am going to ask around! Thank you so much. I hope your suggestion helps others, too. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-58249184704394794402016-11-06T21:55:11.499-05:002016-11-06T21:55:11.499-05:00Our district has paid to send Max to a private sch...Our district has paid to send Max to a private school, because they couldn't accommodate his needs. Our choices are basically more private schools, or public schools with programs. Paige, who knows what new choices might exist when your daughter is old! And there are lots of us who will have gone before you. I hope, ultimately, our journeys give you hope. Heck, I hope our journeys give US hope, too. :)Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-56431738550195712872016-11-06T21:52:53.879-05:002016-11-06T21:52:53.879-05:00And thanks for sharing right back. Wrestling with ...And thanks for sharing right back. Wrestling with the worry is hard, but it is comforting to hear from other parents—and thought-provoking, too. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-18043841678468077322016-11-06T21:51:09.710-05:002016-11-06T21:51:09.710-05:00That is wise perspective—thanks for that, Anon. Yo...That is wise perspective—thanks for that, Anon. You are so right. My first job was shelving library books.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-14610362242586962632016-11-06T21:50:02.119-05:002016-11-06T21:50:02.119-05:00Thanks, Anna.Thanks, Anna.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-83596180462092078112016-11-06T21:49:51.888-05:002016-11-06T21:49:51.888-05:00Thanks, Kathryn. I know that we can always switch ...Thanks, Kathryn. I know that we can always switch schools if things don't work out, but I'd really love to find The One now, if possible. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-89160680002617647112016-11-06T21:49:09.719-05:002016-11-06T21:49:09.719-05:00AMEN JANET. So interesting you mention Project Sea...AMEN JANET. So interesting you mention Project Search, a wonderful educator I met last week told me about it too. I looked up up and it seems amazing. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-84389523662072831942016-11-06T21:47:26.349-05:002016-11-06T21:47:26.349-05:00R, does he enjoy his work? I hope more opportunit...R, does he enjoy his work? I hope more opportunities open up. I struggle with exactly what you say: academia vs. vocational training, and hope to find a place that believes both are important, and that students have potential to make advances in both areas. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-84321535756704358702016-11-06T21:38:46.149-05:002016-11-06T21:38:46.149-05:00What did you go with, Anna? It seems so wrong that...What did you go with, Anna? It seems so wrong that sometimes it is an either/or choice. Our children deserve to have it ALL. I hope that as awareness and acceptance increase, more people will be open to hiring our boys. My confidence as an advocate for Max has grown as he has, and I always tell myself that even if the ops aren't there, I will find a way. You know, like we always find a way, right? Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-26228011882464716122016-11-06T21:35:31.573-05:002016-11-06T21:35:31.573-05:00It's all relative—transitions are challening, ...It's all relative—transitions are challening, no matter what. I hope he has settled in and is doing well. Thank you for the good vibes!Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-22216500685824617402016-11-06T21:34:48.694-05:002016-11-06T21:34:48.694-05:00That is an interesting thought! I am not yet sure ...That is an interesting thought! I am not yet sure how programs work in mainstream high schools. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-43706672303669394682016-11-06T21:33:55.192-05:002016-11-06T21:33:55.192-05:00Ah, I can imagine the challenges—but it's so g...Ah, I can imagine the challenges—but it's so good that a program was there for him. It is not so common. The truth, I am realizing, is that there is no perfect place. But the more I see, the better my understanding of what's best for him. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-58873411598207960622016-11-04T01:57:23.363-04:002016-11-04T01:57:23.363-04:00 I think inclusion is best though it might be ha... I think inclusion is best though it might be hard because he has not had it before. I hope u can find something. Also do not stress about life skills right now. He can get a certificate and then spend til 22. I do not have life skills but I have a BA. Plus their are college programs for students with intellectual disabilities. Look at Think College.net <br />AZ Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04797298787967914735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-18141841741321784752016-11-03T14:29:26.341-04:002016-11-03T14:29:26.341-04:00Hi Ellen,
Is a public, vocational high school an o...Hi Ellen,<br />Is a public, vocational high school an option for him? In MA, these schools are regional establishments that pull students from surrounding towns. Students who choose this type of HS education alternate one week academics, one week in 'shop'--which includes everything from web design to biotechnology to plumbing. My mother taught at one for 20+ years, and many of her kids went on to college, and not just into the "trade" they had trained for. I think this is a great option for so many kids, especially with the cost of 4 yr colleges so ridiculously high. Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13012002151975859000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-52892357900172679652016-11-03T13:21:07.387-04:002016-11-03T13:21:07.387-04:00correction: What other options do you have where y...correction: What other options do you have where you live? Paige Flammhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16069836120389924817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-44017001193941104992016-11-03T13:20:38.922-04:002016-11-03T13:20:38.922-04:00Oh I just want to jump through the computer screen...Oh I just want to jump through the computer screen and give you a huge hug. We're still in the baby stage with our daughter, but as I read your post, and your thoughts, and desires, I can't help but get teary eyed for you. These are all such big decisions, and I'm sure we all worry about what the world holds for our little ones. I'm interested in what you said about looking into public school options, because for us here in Georgia, public school is our only option, unless we want to shell out 30k/yr for a private school for special needs children, which we don't have. Are other options do you have where you live?Paige Flammhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16069836120389924817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-679806278572596652016-11-03T09:07:28.227-04:002016-11-03T09:07:28.227-04:00You've tapped into so many of my own fears and...You've tapped into so many of my own fears and concerns. My son is just starting middle school but already, I'm looking to the path ahead. He's always been in public school, mainstream with pull-out classes and it's got its pros/cons. As the academics get harder for him, I'm constantly worried that the public school no longer "fits" and will also be looking into alternatives as high school approaches. Thanks for sharing this part of your journey Ellen. Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05459537194630899272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-84758785549306047182016-11-02T19:49:40.903-04:002016-11-02T19:49:40.903-04:00Kind of a random thought but his first job does t ...Kind of a random thought but his first job does t necessarily have to be what he does for the rest of his life. He will gain work skills and find out what he like and is good at and move on to his next job, perhaps due to the people he will meet along he way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-17062022554183718022016-11-02T19:17:55.622-04:002016-11-02T19:17:55.622-04:00Whatever you are, be a good one. That's all I ...Whatever you are, be a good one. That's all I can say. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-88723050209548854882016-11-02T14:37:41.528-04:002016-11-02T14:37:41.528-04:00I will pray that Max ends up in the best high scho...I will pray that Max ends up in the best high school for him. It must be scary. The future is scary. It's so hard to plan for.Kathrynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-74718472714823241122016-11-02T13:58:38.334-04:002016-11-02T13:58:38.334-04:00My son also starts high school next year. I will n...My son also starts high school next year. I will not allow him to clean the high school until all of the students help clean the high school! And he won't be going on any CBI trips - where the C has turn from Community to Career. All they do is clean. Like I told the school board - he needs to learn how to use the community before he cleans the community.<br /><br />A program that you can look into for the future is Project Search http://www.projectsearch.us/ It is a nation wide program. We have it in my school district. I don't know if it will be a fit for Luke or not. But I know, even with the autism, and being non-verbal he is capable of more than sheltered workshop work.Janetnoreply@blogger.com