tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post4034915158097466002..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : Yes, people with disabilities can be parents. Why is that shocking?Ellen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-54265837798808505032014-07-04T05:10:08.403-04:002014-07-04T05:10:08.403-04:00I am disabled and so is my child's mom and I w...I am disabled and so is my child's mom and I went through the same thing just about. We didn't get married and had shared custody. She had attendants help her at home but I raised her on my own. Long story made short, We raised a wonderful daughter, who was in the top 10 academically at her high school, involved in sports, student leadership, she worked in the community and started a program for disadvantaged teens, won countless academic awards and is now attending a top research university in the US. So give them their child and let them raise him and trust me, the kid will adapt to his parents limitations quickly and be a better human being for it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-25675633740553816022012-12-25T10:01:39.184-05:002012-12-25T10:01:39.184-05:00I think at a higher level and talk on a lower one,...I think at a higher level and talk on a lower one, so it can be frustrating for me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16576844684725684941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-29031401697272726832012-05-08T10:59:57.343-04:002012-05-08T10:59:57.343-04:00Ellen,
Are you stating that it is always prejudi...Ellen, <br /><br />Are you stating that it is always prejudice for one's disabilities to be brought up in regards to their ability to parent a child? <br /><br />There are cases where a parent's medical condition DOES interfere with being able to raise a child if they do not have an adequate support system. Is the State or even the other parent (in the case of divorce) supposed to ignore this or should they ensure that an adequate support system is there for the child's benefit? <br /><br />If Max where an adult right now, and he had a wife who had the same abilities as he does, would you be 100% comfortable leaving them alone with their child? Would you want to ensure that they COULD properly provide care for your grandchild without you there? Would you admit it if they COULDN'T? <br /><br />You state above that "both are rooted in prejudice". Are you meaning that ANY person who is differently-abled should have automatic rights to custody and to question otherwise is prejudice or is their a point where you find that there is a need to ensure proper care can be given?Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-49065414154956027982012-05-06T23:33:45.909-04:002012-05-06T23:33:45.909-04:00Nisha, your campaign rocks!
Elise, I'm not sa...Nisha, your campaign rocks!<br /><br />Elise, I'm not saying the stories are the same—obviously, one is a custody battle, one is government gone overboard. I'm saying they are both rooted in prejudice. <br /><br />Look at it this way: Would a man ever try to use the fact that a mother is a lefty against her in a custody battle? Um, of course not—that's because it has nothing to do with her ability to mother. If society thought that having a physical disability like cerebral palsy or being a paraplegic didn't interfere with parenting, it wouldn't come up in a custody suit. Like being a lefty, it would be irrelevant. But given the fact that many DO think that people who are differently-abled are LESS abled, Kaney O'Neill's husband felt confident using her disabilities as his main argument in the custody battle.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-12205122512311603472012-05-06T04:41:03.644-04:002012-05-06T04:41:03.644-04:00This is shocking even "able-bodied" peop...This is shocking even "able-bodied" people have things they cannot do would CPS threaten to take their children away because of it... I THINK NOT! Hopefully my 'I Am Disabled' campaign will get rid of some of the discrimination against "disabled" people. You can read about my I Am Disabled campaign here http://nisha360.com/2012/04/day-568-i-am-disabled/Nishahttp://nisha360.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-42765065684648327972012-05-05T10:36:54.478-04:002012-05-05T10:36:54.478-04:00Aren't these the same people who took Ayn away...Aren't these the same people who took Ayn away from her father saying that he couldn't parent two autistic children as a single parent? Isn't Canada the same country that is denying permanent status to a family because their child is autistic? It seems to me that these so-called social-workers need some social reality themselves. <br /><br />I also don't think the two cases are the same. One is a nasty custody dispute between parents where they use everything to try to garner control of the child and the other is the STATE coming in and threatening you. Very very very different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-44397148243542289592012-05-05T09:16:02.387-04:002012-05-05T09:16:02.387-04:00Is this couple dependant upon the Canadian version...Is this couple dependant upon the Canadian version of our SS Disability? If so, then anyone who has ever filed for Disability benefits knows you must prove that you are unable to take care of yourself. There are different levels of care you are able to offer YOURSELF, so, it is easy to see how the concern is there regarding the ability to care for their child. <br /><br />I have not researched this case so I'm not saying that is what's going on here, but the other article I read states that this couple was already receiving a few hours a day of home care before their child was born to help both of them with their daily living so it would be easy to see where Able Living and CAS, and CPD would be concerned for a child. <br /><br />If nobody said or did anything even though this couple already needed help then this child was found neglected, injured, dead, or abused a few months down the road, everyone would be frothing on about how the state should have stepped in from birth.Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-33598994247727268192012-05-05T04:35:43.261-04:002012-05-05T04:35:43.261-04:00I think it's wrong to threaten to take away th...I think it's wrong to threaten to take away their child. Every family has difficulties, some physical, some emotional.. yet we try and cope. This family should be given a chance...Growing Up With Beahttp://www.growingupwithbea.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-25841444694383910512012-05-04T16:41:29.196-04:002012-05-04T16:41:29.196-04:00I found this appalling.My husband has Spastic dipl...I found this appalling.My husband has Spastic diplegia CP and is an amzing dad to Andrew who is 8 and Brandon who is 6.Though he cannot play football with them or teach them how to ride a bike he is the one who helps them with their homework and plays endless games of Sorry with them.He has taught them respect for everyone,determention and the power of dreaming.Maricyl and Charles will raise an amazing son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-23685829249373267452012-05-04T15:25:44.746-04:002012-05-04T15:25:44.746-04:00News just in. CAS has relented and they can keep ...News just in. CAS has relented and they can keep their baby! Great news.<br /><br />And... people with intellectual disabilities, with the proper support (as needed) can and do parent as well.<br /><br />LaurieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19936607536769552452012-05-04T14:27:59.988-04:002012-05-04T14:27:59.988-04:00Just as we see it reasonable for parents with seve...Just as we see it reasonable for parents with severe physical disabilities to be good parents if they get the proper support, parents with intellectual disabilities can also provide a warm and loving home for children if they get the proper support. Without the outside help, both types of families fall apart. Let's not write anyone off as having the ability to provide a stable, loving home for a child. It's not easy for either kind of family, but who ever said raising kids would be easy?Paulanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-80484975362204871902012-05-04T09:30:14.926-04:002012-05-04T09:30:14.926-04:00Angela, good point, a chronic illness wouldn't...Angela, good point, a chronic illness wouldn't have raised eyebrows. Annie, yes, parents pull out any and all ammo when they're fighting custody battles—but the Kaney case still played to the perception that those with physical disabilities are less capable than others.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-41476251194436248282012-05-04T08:54:10.355-04:002012-05-04T08:54:10.355-04:00I assume you meant that neither has an intellectua...I assume you meant that neither has an intellectual disability. If that were not the case this would be a whole other thing the studies that I have read on intellectual disabilities and parenting raise troubling issues. Also this has little to do with the woman in Illinois. In custody battles any and all abilities and inabilities are fodder for challenge. All typically abled people face the same need to prove their ability to parent. In the situation in Canada only the disabled are facing this situation prior to any specific issue that would warrant involvement from the government. That is just plain wrong.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16831580101168618303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-18439611225797055022012-05-04T07:52:46.098-04:002012-05-04T07:52:46.098-04:00It sounds like a 'visible' disabilty is th...It sounds like a 'visible' disabilty is the focus of CAS questioning this couple's parenting abilities. If the parents had chronic illness I do not think their parenting ability would be questioned. <br /><br />I have rheumatoid arthritis and have limited fine motor skills as well as limited mobility on some days. I also have 3 kids under 5 - no one suggested I cannot care for a newborn. I just make sure clothes, strollers, etc are accessible for me. On bad days I get help. Why can this family not do the same?Angelahttp://halfpastnormal.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com