tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post3003625100574207237..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : A mother with intellectual disability has her baby taken awayEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-23374734081612643462016-02-21T21:24:08.880-05:002016-02-21T21:24:08.880-05:00Hi - sorry for delay as I didn't get an email ...Hi - sorry for delay as I didn't get an email notifying me of your reply. My email is dale AT mydisabilitymatters.com.au Look forward to hearing. Thanks. Dale.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04238438301698243533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-62693130960109211012016-02-20T13:58:45.383-05:002016-02-20T13:58:45.383-05:00I believe the Dept of Child and Families is contra...I believe the Dept of Child and Families is contravening the UN Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities. Are you familiar with Inclusion International and their focus on human rights (www.inclusion-international.org)? Providing everyone with the proper supports not builds a stronger society, it is simply the right thing to do.Michael Georgehttp://www.bmgdynamics.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-56267013160266431052016-02-18T14:10:40.561-05:002016-02-18T14:10:40.561-05:00That's a terrible story... Amen to good and pl...That's a terrible story... Amen to good and plenty resources. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-88008881304506811022016-02-18T14:10:00.065-05:002016-02-18T14:10:00.065-05:00I had the same thoughts about the foster family. A...I had the same thoughts about the foster family. As for Sara, the article made it very clear she does need support but her mother is willing to be there. It's also clear she has the determination and desire. As for our children, we can obviously only speak for ourselves but I want what will make Max happy and what he will can handle when he is older. It is impossible to say now what that will be.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-49239318195016486102016-02-18T14:06:44.179-05:002016-02-18T14:06:44.179-05:00That is a pretty narrow mindset, Anon. With good s...That is a pretty narrow mindset, Anon. With good support, it could be possible. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-85633202388057067072016-02-18T14:04:49.682-05:002016-02-18T14:04:49.682-05:00Hi, Dale! What is your email? Hi, Dale! What is your email? Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-60146500276930310372016-02-16T19:56:47.986-05:002016-02-16T19:56:47.986-05:00A 10 year old is not fit to be a parent. Why would...A 10 year old is not fit to be a parent. Why would someone with the mind of a 10 year old be fit enough to be a parent?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-35575952550023507132016-02-16T16:12:09.876-05:002016-02-16T16:12:09.876-05:00I clicked on the link to read the article
Guardia...I clicked on the link to read the article<br />Guardianship of the child was given to the grandmother, not Sara<br />While every parent would want their child to have a loving caring partner someday, the idea of my daughter Addie having unprotected intercourse with someone using her for sex makes me ill<br />The idea of Addie (significant intellectual disability as well as serious medical issues) bearing a child is too much to contemplate <br />Sara may have been well intentioned toward her daughter but her intellectual deficit did not bode well for either of them--a missed feeding in a baby under 6 pounds is serious, leaving an infant unattended on a changing table is dangerous<br />Sara is reported to prefer not to read--who will read to the child<br />The foster family selected by the child services sounds inappropriate and unsafe--too many injuries easily explained away<br />I sincerely hope I will not be reading about something terrible happening to little Dana someday--she deserves better<br />Ellen, I understand your wanting Max to have it all --I also want that for Addie but I know it can never beMary L Sullivannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-91908274683866111552016-02-16T13:02:21.869-05:002016-02-16T13:02:21.869-05:00DFS requires zero adaptations in parenting. I was ...DFS requires zero adaptations in parenting. I was told by CPS about 21 years ago that I never should have children, but when I argued I'm a teacher The worker told me teachers have physical and mental support from the other staff, where the parents would be alone. <br /><br />Last summer I had a cop at my door with a complaint that I was around children in my neighborhood, where the caller was convinced I was out to harm kids. The cop was informed I am licensed as a teacher and it was my job to interact with kids on some level. Cop was told I had kids in my lap as well. I told him it is now sexual abuse for men to have a child in my lap. Cop did confirm that and agreed with me. <br />Colinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09471958774039208523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-68745474496827127892016-02-16T12:06:02.942-05:002016-02-16T12:06:02.942-05:00This is a hard topic. Having a married relatives ...This is a hard topic. Having a married relatives who are intellectually disabled. They had two children who have been removed from the home because of sexual abuse within the home. The process to remove the children took so long the damage done will take the rest of their lives to correct. Could this have been availed? I do not know. This couple live in another state from me. Did the family have a enough resources to keep this from happening? Looking back, NO. To Sara and others may your community of resources be very large and very caring for the parents and the children.goodie girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06592952274539743429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-85592541902338123712016-02-16T11:35:23.380-05:002016-02-16T11:35:23.380-05:00This must be very difficult for Sara to go through...This must be very difficult for Sara to go through. If there were some way to provide parents with intellectual disabilities the tools they need, this would happen less often.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-88675451131810601922016-02-16T11:16:33.296-05:002016-02-16T11:16:33.296-05:00As a certified teacher, I receive regular training...As a certified teacher, I receive regular training by the state (WA) on child abuse and neglect issues, and I also train professionals on the subject. The law requires us to question why a disabled person has a child because it also goes back to the Buck v Bell SCOTUS ruling, where the 9:1 decision on disabled people having children should be forbidden at all costs.<br /><br />As a disabled person myself, there is zero chance of me having a relationship or a child. Although it violates ADA, but it is what society wants. We would have to argue to the Supreme Court that a disabled person has the same right to be a parent as any other person, even when other people abuse their kids. <br /><br />Adaptations are possible, but certain adaptations may also be considered illegal as well. A child sitting in my lap now is considered sexual, because I am a man and the thought is men have no control over sexual issues. I personally would not do it now with the climate now. <br /><br />The specific WA law here is RCW 26.09.191 which requires DFS to determine whether the person has a disability and it is also used (one section of it) to terminate the rights of disabled people. Colinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09471958774039208523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-11971271019281820902016-02-16T08:21:41.526-05:002016-02-16T08:21:41.526-05:00Everyone has those rights. In my opinion the DCF s...Everyone has those rights. In my opinion the DCF should focus more on parents who are abusing their children, not parents with disabilities who have the right support system. Plus it seems to forget the fact that these women with intellectual disabilities may very well be having children because of sexual assault. They also may be in committed relationships or marriages but the possibility they are not can't be ignored. I'm glad it ended well in this case. And I hope Max marries and has children far in the future if he wants. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392626811425787266noreply@blogger.com