tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post1904538637616393644..comments2024-03-28T21:36:55.157-04:00Comments on Love That Max : 11 things a special needs dad wants you to knowEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-71266335504687862372013-12-01T13:54:34.165-05:002013-12-01T13:54:34.165-05:00I don't think you are crossing the line (well,...I don't think you are crossing the line (well, unless you were - I wasn't there). <br /><br />Who knows if the reaction was because the parent was having a bad day, because the parent was a jerk, or because the parent thought you were overdoing it with a stranger's child? Those reactions could have been the same -- regardless of the developmental level of their child.<br /><br />I think you gave yourself your own answer though - you "lit up like a roman candle." So you probably were a bit overzealous. But again, I wasn't there. I'm just reading your words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-6663533707845555322013-11-20T10:31:26.262-05:002013-11-20T10:31:26.262-05:00Very enlightening article! I hope you won't ge...Very enlightening article! I hope you won't get offended if I ask an honest follow up question about something that has bothered me lately. As a person who hopes to one day adopt a child with special needs, I have simply developed a love for the kids and families who already do what I hope one day to be able to do. As such, I am more-than-averagely inclined or likely to comment on how cute one's child is or some other vague pleasantry. Not at all in the way that you referenced in point 2, just in the same way I would smile or wave at a "typical" baby or child that I saw or interacted with in Wal-Mart. These reactions or gestures on my part have sometimes been met with reactions of distrust or at times, plain and simple hostility. In one instance, a little boy (who just happened to have Down Syndrome) showed me and my husband a book at Barnes and Noble that he was looking at and we had a tiny conversation (while my husband and I were picking out a book for my niece) with him only to have his mother glare fiercely at me before dragging him away. Am I crossing a line in some way? Should I act like most other people when they encounter a child with special needs and simply smile and look away uncomfortably? Or should I just keep lighting up like a roman candle when I see one of these kids like I usually do. Any honest insight is appreciated. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-65560384486757344482013-09-12T22:24:55.128-04:002013-09-12T22:24:55.128-04:00Ah, that was my shorthand for a title!—EllenAh, that was my shorthand for a title!—EllenEllen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19703572748123572102013-09-12T19:38:32.066-04:002013-09-12T19:38:32.066-04:00This is totally cool. I like to hear about dads ta...This is totally cool. I like to hear about dads taking care of their kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-68395031141283401392013-09-11T07:37:29.871-04:002013-09-11T07:37:29.871-04:00Great post. I LOVE #11 I hate it when people say s...Great post. I LOVE #11 I hate it when people say stuff along the lines of "God only gives special children to special parents" it really upsets my mom the fact that I have CP doesn't make my family "special" it just means that my family's challenges are more visible than their family's challenges. Nishahttp://nisha360.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19393325714248834242013-09-10T13:29:34.946-04:002013-09-10T13:29:34.946-04:00I love this too! Though, I don't mind being ca...I love this too! Though, I don't mind being called the parent of a special needs son. I think the more we say the words, the more people will realize how many of us there are.Momo Falihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09735425888226178189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-13289143275833948692013-09-10T10:45:25.137-04:002013-09-10T10:45:25.137-04:00Love this! You might want to swap out the blogpos...Love this! You might want to swap out the blogpost title given number 11, though I know plenty of parents have different feelings about this....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-90985106982108812642013-09-10T10:13:04.204-04:002013-09-10T10:13:04.204-04:00WOW! Just WOW! You have covered off so many crucia...WOW! Just WOW! You have covered off so many crucial points about dads and stereotypes related to raising kids with disabilities. This was a most interesting read. I am going to post a link at the Parent Voices at Holland Bloorview Facebook page, where parents share information and support. Look forward to your book.BLOOM - Parenting Kids With Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901482901008135659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-73615070108095913452013-09-10T09:45:31.617-04:002013-09-10T09:45:31.617-04:00Love this - thank you. KristenLove this - thank you. KristenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-33803641085219507732013-09-10T07:56:19.157-04:002013-09-10T07:56:19.157-04:00LOVE hearing from a father's perspective!! Exc...LOVE hearing from a father's perspective!! Excellent points here, ones I've heard my own husband echo. Hope you'll guest post again soon!!Brielle and Me: Our Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084824316775562051noreply@blogger.com