tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post6146398443802838420..comments2024-03-28T21:36:55.157-04:00Comments on Love That Max : Dealing with kids' meltdowns: The mom time-outEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1726992634156988072015-02-05T10:33:33.578-05:002015-02-05T10:33:33.578-05:00This is great advise. I have a 26 year old daught...This is great advise. I have a 26 year old daughter with CP. Did this for years. Be ware my daughter used to do this and I did as well. No she's older and when frustrated I can't leave the room because she hurts herself. I am trying a new approach in wrapping her arms so she can't bite them. While wrapping her arms I tell her to breathe and it just doesn't stop. It takes her a good 20 minutes of this. She can verbalize somewhat but when she's mad there's no getting thru until she gets over her tantrum. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-53553232487839162282015-01-16T08:52:34.042-05:002015-01-16T08:52:34.042-05:00I think every mom does this in some way, and while...I think every mom does this in some way, and while we all feel guilty about it, it's necessary. My little one is currently in the wonderful "I'm a toddler I have to throw a tantrum about every single thing that bothers me." Finally, the other day instead of trying a million different tactics, I looked at him and said, "Fine. Scream about it, I don't care," and I went into another room and shut the door. If it's a choice between doing that or yelling at him and losing my temper, I choose leave the room every time. Because yelling at him makes me feel a lot guiltier than walking away for a few minutes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-40066160651149595482015-01-15T18:27:16.873-05:002015-01-15T18:27:16.873-05:00I'm sure I drive my parents crazy because I co...I'm sure I drive my parents crazy because I constantly forget things, eat all the snacks, and like to practice my ability to sustain high notes on the flute. Annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-10201203326095552442015-01-15T17:42:16.330-05:002015-01-15T17:42:16.330-05:00It's about both of us needing a breather! Whic...It's about both of us needing a breather! Which I think all moms deserve. And yes, I do think he gets the message that I'm not going to react to screeches. I only feel a bit of guilt, as mentioned, because Max is unable to manipulate door knobs. Perhaps this is a feeling you can only understand if you have a kid with special needs. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-42913124249254974562015-01-15T15:43:24.040-05:002015-01-15T15:43:24.040-05:00Anonymous worded it perfectly Anonymous worded it perfectly Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16582185250526797407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-10214851585508491092015-01-15T15:38:11.300-05:002015-01-15T15:38:11.300-05:003), of course. Unfortunately for us, we live in a...3), of course. Unfortunately for us, we live in an apartment, and that will get the childless sisters next door banging on our wall in about three seconds.<br />WorkingMamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-2779160545332509492015-01-15T13:43:52.642-05:002015-01-15T13:43:52.642-05:00It seems like you're being rough on yourself. ...It seems like you're being rough on yourself. Is it about you both needing a breather, or are you setting a boundary by separating yourself and not reinforcing an inappropriate reaction? This seems like a good learning opportunity for him (if you as his mom don't appreciate such a reaction, who will?) If I'm misunderstanding his needs, please forgive me,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com