tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post4370146782984305702..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : The anti-stress strategy that actually worksEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-15002725474101049472013-11-27T09:03:41.724-05:002013-11-27T09:03:41.724-05:00It's a wonderful thought! Thanks, Ellen (and a...It's a wonderful thought! Thanks, Ellen (and another happy birthday to you!)Beth Arkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522834933243475180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-43671253215447560822013-11-26T21:22:32.728-05:002013-11-26T21:22:32.728-05:00Well, wow. JB sounds rather awesome (and ditto for...Well, wow. JB sounds rather awesome (and ditto for his sister, so you have clearly done LOTS of things right with your kids). I also shed no tears over Max's life—I feel as you do about JB, and that this is about our pain we feel as parents.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-76285632583963667432013-11-26T21:18:57.977-05:002013-11-26T21:18:57.977-05:00You are so right, I am not getting into the Russia...You are so right, I am not getting into the Russian bride business! I've never seen anything like that. Every single ad is vetted by the Babble Network, so if something like that showed up, I'm told, there could be malware on your computer. Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-41240173598517763932013-11-26T11:02:09.937-05:002013-11-26T11:02:09.937-05:00Hi Ellen. Your post reminded me of a Web site I re...Hi Ellen. Your post reminded me of a Web site I recently came across, "Make a Deal With the Universe." See: http://www.makeadealwiththeuniverse.com/ Súkí aquíhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627765802032575335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-13907194811531688202013-11-26T10:56:56.463-05:002013-11-26T10:56:56.463-05:00Ellen, I'm not sure if you're aware of thi...Ellen, I'm not sure if you're aware of this but the ad that's showing up next to today's post is for "dating Russian beauties" and has a rather...close-up picture of woman's cleavage. I've read your blog long enough to know that's not the culture of this blog!! :)<br /><br />-JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-66363007046674317572013-11-26T10:52:09.826-05:002013-11-26T10:52:09.826-05:00My son, too, had a stroke shortly after birth resu...My son, too, had a stroke shortly after birth resulting in CP. I remember the pain, and for me, the guilt. I also remember those developmental years of not knowing what the future held and hoping for the best. My son, JB, is now 29 years old. He has never walked, did not begin talking until he was 4 (after we were told he would probably not talk). His fine motor is significantly impaired and has prevented him from doing many things we take for granted including the ability to write, color a picture, or load a DVD without scratching it. His eyes do not track as they should, thus preventing him from reading a book, or a sentence without extreme effort, although he can read quite well, one word at a time. He is cognitively intact, albeit immature from his limited social interaction with "normal" peers. In retrospect, I have been able to see all the great accomplishments he has made and the numerous lives he has affected through the years. From going with us to pick up his sister, one year older, from the YMCA day care when they were 4 and 5, it lead to us providing in-service training and opening up the Nashville TN YMCA day cares, not only to him, but to developmentally delayed children of all types, in all centers throughout the city. It is because of him and relationships established through his early intervention that I met my life-partner of 25 years. Because of her brother, my daughter chose a career working with special-needs adults and began volunteering with special-needs children when she was in Junior High. JB's acceptance and attitude is inspiring. It has been others, not him, that have had difficulty accepting his disability. Although he does not read or write in the traditional way, he is an avid "reader" of audio books and has co-authored a book with his other mother. (It's available through Amazon and many bookstores, "Oath Breaker" by SR Vaught and JB Redmond. He continues to be the joy of our families' lives and his determination and acceptance are inspiring. I hope that one day your grief will diminish. I rarely shed tears over his life now; only when reliving my own pain. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com