tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post3691703091393256158..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : This mom's not judging youEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-75634773390022887002013-07-02T20:27:24.576-04:002013-07-02T20:27:24.576-04:00In our society there seems to be a one sided menta...In our society there seems to be a one sided mentality. Judging others has become second nature and women are judged in almost every aspect of being especially is the way we raise our children. It's not a one size fit's all scenario. We all have different circumstances. I received and still receive negativity when I state that I have seven children and even more after people find out I have a child with SN. I have learned to ignore it but it does not make it right. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-72346368626163022142013-05-17T17:51:43.168-04:002013-05-17T17:51:43.168-04:00So loved this piece!
I don't know why we do th...So loved this piece!<br />I don't know why we do this to each other as mamas...<br />I think you might like some of my recent posts on similar topics. Especially "I Will Not Judge Parenting"<br />http://mytwicebakedpotato.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-64490079060602318202013-05-14T00:01:10.645-04:002013-05-14T00:01:10.645-04:00I once had four littles all with at least one issu...I once had four littles all with at least one issue. I was a single parent who would do anything to avoid taking them into public. I knew what would happen if I did-the staring, the whispering, the comments...I also had a child with an ASD who routinely wore a harness, an extra seat belt for the shopping cart, earplugs, and sunglasses when I had to take him out. There was a woman at a Safeway though who helped me cart my infant twins and my screaming two year old to the car one year. I cried. No-one in ten years had ever helped me. She told me she'd had twins who died in infancy. I let her hold mine. It was the least I could do for HER. I have dealt with judgement and I too have judged other moms. Especially the really foul mouthed ones who would cart their screaming kids through my checkout line at midnight. I guess we all have our pet peeves. I think having kids like mine has ramped up my tolerance. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15698048718456255433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-85334505179807477362013-05-13T22:54:21.201-04:002013-05-13T22:54:21.201-04:00Yes, my empathy has grown immeasurably. And
for so...Yes, my empathy has grown immeasurably. And<br />for some reason, people give me credit for <br />being less judgmental (seems like an zen benefit/<br />response). And I just don't care about people<br />judging, because who has time to spare? I don't<br />carry a lot of guilt, another time saver. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-52080586399819830482013-05-13T14:00:37.204-04:002013-05-13T14:00:37.204-04:00Oh, I'm a graduate of the Baby Leash Club and ...Oh, I'm a graduate of the Baby Leash Club and it didn't affect me negatively at all. I was a determined and crafty runaway, and my mom says that if not for the leash, a diaper pin and a significant amount of duct tape, I'd be living feral in the woods right now. It really is the best thing sometimes, and apparently very convenient when walking your dog and your baby. But bad grammar will always get me, too. Come on, linguistic abusers, you can do better than that. Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150180999759304022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-87030328844636817562013-05-13T13:44:45.669-04:002013-05-13T13:44:45.669-04:00Fascinating study! I think i'm also less judgm...Fascinating study! I think i'm also less judgmental because I have CP. Nishahttp://nisha360.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-8820903191647034762013-05-13T10:52:19.678-04:002013-05-13T10:52:19.678-04:00YES, yes, & yes!!!YES, yes, & yes!!!Lishiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09366144831587884920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-2852268595846384862013-05-13T10:48:27.582-04:002013-05-13T10:48:27.582-04:00I do think that's one of the gifts of being a ...I do think that's one of the gifts of being a special needs mom. We get how things can appear one way but actually be totally different. We don't judge because we've been in those situations and know it's not as simple as "why doesn't that mom tell her child to stop?" <br /><br />We all have a gut reaction judgement about some things(for me, it's when kids are hitting/hurting other kids and the mom just lets it all go). But I know that I can choose how to handle that judgement- by leaving the situation, not tossing out parenting advice to someone who doesn't want it. Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-15423623822913566972013-05-13T09:31:19.655-04:002013-05-13T09:31:19.655-04:00I often feel like I'm the brunt of people'...I often feel like I'm the brunt of people's judgment. Maybe I'm misreading their thoughts and ideas, maybe not. But I AM doing by best.stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15966764582179459848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-77149762970480245212013-05-13T09:05:35.310-04:002013-05-13T09:05:35.310-04:00Part of the problem is one common to women. Someti...Part of the problem is one common to women. Sometimes the judgment is a figment of our imagination -- someone smiles sympthetically and we read it completely wrong. Sometimes our biggest enemies are ourselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-5941291135023945652013-05-13T08:43:32.433-04:002013-05-13T08:43:32.433-04:00Oh Ellen, this is wonderful and spot on as always!...Oh Ellen, this is wonderful and spot on as always! We ARE all just trying to do the best we can. Too bad society doesn't see that. It seems like all you ever hear about when there is a crime is what the parents did or didn't do. At some point the children had to make a choice as well. Hugs and happy Monday!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13601329296517304013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-79787901718439631332013-05-13T07:48:05.713-04:002013-05-13T07:48:05.713-04:00Delightful! I agree 100% And it is because of my s...Delightful! I agree 100% And it is because of my son w/ ASD.<br /><br />I used to call them leashes too, until Luke. Then I started calling them hand-holders with one end connected to his belt loop and the other to mine. :-)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com