tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post3290598531555346404..comments2024-03-28T21:36:55.157-04:00Comments on Love That Max : DoneEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-69136564864242630522011-06-29T22:17:04.388-04:002011-06-29T22:17:04.388-04:00That not "all that's left". Your fat...That not "all that's left". Your father left you and your children- the best legacy a man can leaveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-28450505333347809982011-06-28T09:41:58.798-04:002011-06-28T09:41:58.798-04:00So sorry for your loss. I helped do this when my ...So sorry for your loss. I helped do this when my grandparents died, and it made me feel like I was violating some kind of trust...snooping if you will. It was an emotional roller coaster. :( But, it is good to get it all out of the way and not put it off.<br /><br />Sending prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.CrAzY Working Momhttp://www.crazyworkingmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-55683556037645505672011-06-28T07:55:02.410-04:002011-06-28T07:55:02.410-04:00i am so sorry the you lost your dad I still have b...i am so sorry the you lost your dad I still have both my parents and i pray for their safety every night i dont know waht will happen wnhen they are gone as i have Cp and rely on them alot although im independant thee thought scare me to death honestly i have talked about it with mom and she just doedsnt want to face that idea yethugs to youjennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01890297146944964240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-80153431780960266702011-06-28T01:05:14.889-04:002011-06-28T01:05:14.889-04:00When you can stand to do it, and if you can track ...When you can stand to do it, and if you can track down the people who wrote those letters, you might want to scan them and convert them to electronic media for your family archives (easier to store, certainly), and send the originals back to the writers (or the children/survivors of the writers). Sometimes something, like a letter or a picture, that doesn't mean much to you (particularly if it is someone you don't know) can really mean the world to others--little Miss "Smells Bad" might have a daughter or son who would laugh/cry/love reading mom's mash notes. <br /><br />It also helps with the whole closure thing, to bring a bit of joy to a stranger. Sometimes you make a friend, too. <br /><br />It's not something you need to do now, but maybe you'll be ready to dig into those boxes and do that one day. We did that with a bunch of pictures my great grandmother had, and we got so much love back from what was just a small gesture. We still get cards from a lot of the folks at the holidays. It helps with the healing, too, if you know what I mean.Felicianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-91449836642290935012011-06-28T01:00:44.207-04:002011-06-28T01:00:44.207-04:00My heart goes out to you --My heart goes out to you --Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1817288031406475852011-06-27T23:38:46.543-04:002011-06-27T23:38:46.543-04:00Ellen, it's never enough. You know I understa...Ellen, it's never enough. You know I understand. *hugs* - RichAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04111350281918492504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-27637246313168436122011-06-27T22:56:00.070-04:002011-06-27T22:56:00.070-04:00You know, maybe this will help us to think about t...You know, maybe this will help us to think about the end while we still have all our faculties. We helped Mom and Dad move from their home of 35+ years and with that move came the unearthing of things from the past we could talk about, but we never took the time to go through a lot of those really old memory things. There was so much to do just in the present that we never delved into the past much...except for those times that Dad woke up in 1957.Rose Bowenhttp://rosebowen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-30707826758138752652011-06-27T21:23:41.276-04:002011-06-27T21:23:41.276-04:00This should have had a disclaimer that mentioned n...This should have had a disclaimer that mentioned needing tissues. I have had to help with cleaning out my grandparent's things, but can not even imagine the difficulty of going through your own parent's entire life. It is interesting because you mention the cards and letters from his past which are things of mine that I have kept for that specific reason...to leave future generations with my story. Thinking of you,Elena Sonninohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05379730157559930301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-26346881485731184052011-06-27T21:12:20.828-04:002011-06-27T21:12:20.828-04:00Thanks, everyone. Wise words, Penbleth.
Sondra, I...Thanks, everyone. Wise words, Penbleth.<br /><br />Sondra, I have fond memories of your dad, he was a really cool, nice guy.<br /><br />Love you, Jude.Ellen Seidmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-50466663175694437802011-06-27T16:32:46.131-04:002011-06-27T16:32:46.131-04:00They will be enough, as time passes and possession...They will be enough, as time passes and possessions become less important the memories will be priceless. You won't forget but they will help. Your father won't be gone while there are people who love him and remember him. That's not just cliche, it is fact, my father died in 2003. An empty apartment is hard now but it will be insignificant with time when a head full of memories and a heartful of love become your treasures and your father's home.Penblethhttp://penbleth.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-76727688237192217682011-06-27T13:25:13.244-04:002011-06-27T13:25:13.244-04:00"all that remains is memories and the boxes n..."all that remains is memories and the boxes neatly piled up in my basement. And they just don't feel like enough."<br /><br />My dad died four years ago. This phrase you wrote, it's perfect. I couldn't put it into better words.Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17113953923376190702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-75668308528118548652011-06-27T12:50:59.430-04:002011-06-27T12:50:59.430-04:00Ellen, I remember your dad as such a sweet soul.. ...Ellen, I remember your dad as such a sweet soul.. It has been 15years since my Dad passed, each day is a reminder of how lucky I was to have him. The days are fun to talk about him and his ways. I get sad thinking of how much he has missed in my life. My wedding, the birth of my children, but then I know how lucky I am to have him watching over us. Its funny how much you appreciate you parents when you get older. I wish each day that I just had one more day. It never gets easier... But smiles come from memories soon instead of tears. <br />Sondra (Ginberg)WhalenSondra Whalennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-81411602903566401192011-06-27T12:42:35.631-04:002011-06-27T12:42:35.631-04:00You have my sympathy.
Both my parents are alive an...You have my sympathy.<br />Both my parents are alive and I find it hard to imagine how I'll feel when the time comes.<br />xdderbydavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07448901859808979140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-63004015063261577292011-06-27T12:27:32.318-04:002011-06-27T12:27:32.318-04:00Oh Ellen! My heart hurts for you. Sending cyber hu...Oh Ellen! My heart hurts for you. Sending cyber hugs your way.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11818818093248788832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-74176165765751608332011-06-27T09:28:24.672-04:002011-06-27T09:28:24.672-04:00Ok, I have managed to stop crying. I feel exactl...Ok, I have managed to stop crying. I feel exactly the same way - it's almost as if there was a whole part of him that we really didn't know and I wish he could have been there with us while we were going through his things to give us some background, but at the same time, he probably would have been telling us not to get rid of any of it!!!<br /><br />But, we do have some really great memories of him and what a devoted father he was to us and hopefully that will help ease the pain a little.Aunt Judynoreply@blogger.com