tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post1716468927349022197..comments2024-03-28T21:36:55.157-04:00Comments on Love That Max : Haters gonna hate, and this blogger's gonna pityEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-48473301924213485752012-07-10T22:17:43.929-04:002012-07-10T22:17:43.929-04:00A special Ed teacher posted something offensive on...A special Ed teacher posted something offensive on her Facebook. This sickens me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-63683739384611896882012-06-06T11:30:16.825-04:002012-06-06T11:30:16.825-04:00I am often shocked by the things people will say i...I am often shocked by the things people will say in response to articles online. It's really easy to say nasty, ignorant things when you don't have to divulge your identity. I am so grateful for your perspective and admire you for putting yourself out there! You are a voice for many!Kristin W.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19331156915060897732012-04-21T14:15:45.939-04:002012-04-21T14:15:45.939-04:00Although I don't necessarily believe that we s...Although I don't necessarily believe that we should completely eliminate the word retarded from our vocabulary, I love to see parents like you! Max and Sabrina are SOOOOO lucky to have a mom like you! The people who continue to make such ugly comments are clearly ignorant and have not taken the time to get to know anyone with any sort special needs! If they had they would know that they are human beings just like you and me and have feelings, they love, are compassionate, funny, and have an innocence to be admired! My older sister, who has Down's, was not raised any differently than my oldest sister and me... because she is not different than us. She simply learns differently and slower than us... and is a bit shorter. :) She is not a nuisance to my family or society! NO ONE has the right to say that our kids/family/friends are a nuisance to society! My parents cared for my sister, the only thing anyone else in this country helped pay for was her public education... and my parents and I are helping pay for your kids educations as well. Hopefully their teachers will teach them compassion.ckpatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14066133037524063512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-2895379211135204622012-03-15T21:50:52.083-04:002012-03-15T21:50:52.083-04:00Yes they all are haters when u would rather have a...Yes they all are haters when u would rather have a simple word, which u can ignore, banned. Its fine if u ask people not to say it to ur son or others like him, but going against evrybody else is RETARDED. Its just a word. Also because this whole movement happen, people have been using the word more. Ur plan worked. So don't be calling others stupid when ur bright idea backfired. And people are going to get mad if u try to restrict try. How would u like no religious freedom or freedom of press, which u r obviously using? And don't say others are careless. U r the one that didn't bother to think about others, only ur son. so just chill with the name calling. Ps I will nvr stop saying the word RETARDED RETARDED RETARDED RETARDEDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-59101462934641266032012-03-11T09:06:26.717-04:002012-03-11T09:06:26.717-04:00Spread the word to end the R-Word. Thanks for sha...Spread the word to end the R-Word. Thanks for sharing this message for our children.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058970743241351812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-72184756368069818202012-03-11T04:13:50.024-04:002012-03-11T04:13:50.024-04:00Not many of us could handle the hatred. I just get...Not many of us could handle the hatred. I just get angry and upset... pitying them, however, seems the best way forward. Good on you.Devina Divecha (Autism and Us)http://autism.devinadivecha.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-89559752535841818922012-03-11T01:06:29.309-05:002012-03-11T01:06:29.309-05:00Just FYI......ICD-9 codes are the codes that medic...Just FYI......ICD-9 codes are the codes that medical personnel and hospitals and insurance companies use to code for payment to insurance companies...including not only private companies but also Medicare and Medicaid. they ICD-9 codes are still using Mental Retardation as a code...crabbyladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02414587554423612628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-10423538321538001662012-03-10T17:32:43.496-05:002012-03-10T17:32:43.496-05:00you are awesome.you are awesome.angela auclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045568458591454469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-3475320339578802852012-03-10T15:18:34.644-05:002012-03-10T15:18:34.644-05:00Thank you for speaking for so many of us, and for ...Thank you for speaking for so many of us, and for so many of our amazing kids that can't speak for themselves. As for the haters, pitying them is absolutely the best way to go -- they clearly need more help than we can give them.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11655633293944496091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-50673272957321382722012-03-10T10:07:42.720-05:002012-03-10T10:07:42.720-05:00You rock. Max rocks. Great attitude you have. Ther...You rock. Max rocks. Great attitude you have. There is nothing that will upset me faster than than comment sections on posts like yours. You are the better person. For sure.Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-43634168540097958972012-03-10T03:51:49.482-05:002012-03-10T03:51:49.482-05:00Your video made me cry.
Its not a word i personall...Your video made me cry.<br />Its not a word i personally use and I tell off people who use it in my or my childrens company, I however do not understand the outpouring of hate If a person tried to explain to me how a word i did use made them feel bad, surely a normal persons response is to apologise not defend themselves and be spiteful to you.<br /><br />stay strong don't let the obviously lacking in humanity people get you down.Caitlin Adamsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-50534387956319483252012-03-09T22:51:57.777-05:002012-03-09T22:51:57.777-05:00Amen sister! I agree wholeheartedly that people w...Amen sister! I agree wholeheartedly that people who spew forth venom are clearly full of it, and have to live with it all the time. They are to be pitied, their lives are not as rich and full of the beautiful variety of life as ours are. I too have been frustrated when people focus on what may or may not have caused my daughter's unique skill set. When they focus on whose "fault" it is, they imply there is something wrong with her, and such is not the case. She has the kindest, most empathetic heart I've ever met, and I wouldn't trade her in for one of those soul-less commenters for anything.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00697719280970403373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-25738283798573830432012-03-09T22:33:46.919-05:002012-03-09T22:33:46.919-05:00I agree with many people to say that you and Max, ...I agree with many people to say that you and Max, are amazing. The reasons I think people have such hateful things to say are because they want attention, and also because they are afraid of anything or anyone who is different. <br /><br />Change/difference makes people uncomfortable. I have CP and my "difference" makes people uncomfortable. I see it every day in the stares I get when I'm out in public. I hear it in whispers, and comments. <br /><br />I have heard children ask their parents why I walk funny or why I'm different. Some older children have asked if I'm retarded.<br /><br /> Some parents say nothing, others try to gently explain that my legs don't work so well, and that's why I use crutches. Or they encourage their children to say hello and ask me themselves. (I greatly applaud these open minded parents!)<br /><br />I hope that sometime soon, the word retarded will be completely phased out of the vernacular, and I'm glad there are people like you out there spreading the word against it.Melissas Midnight Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06871229267547737727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-25227558674167759032012-03-09T20:38:08.842-05:002012-03-09T20:38:08.842-05:00I am gonna IGNORE them Ellen. People who do stuff...I am gonna IGNORE them Ellen. People who do stuff like that want attention, that's why they make a scene, and I am not gonna give it to them. <br /><br />Hey, look at this in the Boston MASS paper--is this cool or what? <br /><br />http://articles.boston.com/2012-03-04/metro/31119794_1_bar-mitzvah-ipad-prayers<br /><br />Screw the a-holes, live well, it is the best revenge!Felicianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-16566276543159586982012-03-09T18:52:57.677-05:002012-03-09T18:52:57.677-05:00You realize that your last comment on Max has grea...You realize that your last comment on Max has great import in Buddhism. He is one who's soul has been enlightened. Is this irony?spectrummomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893167023543993093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-12582606019671503432012-03-09T17:39:06.830-05:002012-03-09T17:39:06.830-05:00I'm sorry that so many people were so mean. I ...I'm sorry that so many people were so mean. I read that article, and I was very, very proud of you for writing it.<br /><br />I'm not a special needs parent - I'm a law student in a special education advocacy class, and have been following your blog for a while.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-52319718084378369822012-03-09T17:37:24.127-05:002012-03-09T17:37:24.127-05:00You GO girl!!!.....and thanks. :)
DeborahYou GO girl!!!.....and thanks. :)<br />DeborahCharmed...I'm Surehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02735430947637483821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-82479573268534067852012-03-09T17:07:31.062-05:002012-03-09T17:07:31.062-05:00Thank you Ellen for standing up for all those with...Thank you Ellen for standing up for all those with special needs!!! We need more mom's (and people) like you!!!The Blitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10768810590768068120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-38751383460186695092012-03-09T17:03:12.094-05:002012-03-09T17:03:12.094-05:00Awesome video, it almost made me cry. I don't ...Awesome video, it almost made me cry. I don't understand why people don't go by the saying 'If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.'Toonerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13035308590730363327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-39726047688091106692012-03-09T16:19:54.532-05:002012-03-09T16:19:54.532-05:00Good for you. What asshats! It's amazing how...Good for you. What asshats! It's amazing how cruel people can be. It's so sad there's so much hatred in this world.Terrihttp://www.facebook.com/TerriDuncannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-19335141074293215422012-03-09T15:29:57.877-05:002012-03-09T15:29:57.877-05:00When I was growing up I used that word, but only b...When I was growing up I used that word, but only because I had no idea what it was really referring to. I don't use it now because whether people want it to or not it has taken on a negative connotation. Those who can't grow up and show some respect will eventually reap their reward. Your son is a blessing, not only to your family but now to all of us who get to read about him on your blog. Thanks for sharing!Meggan Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05435752639112939535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-5389286049708278802012-03-09T14:59:50.870-05:002012-03-09T14:59:50.870-05:00You are amazing. Your child is very lucky to have ...You are amazing. Your child is very lucky to have such a strong mother :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-10856035566456374642012-03-09T14:29:02.265-05:002012-03-09T14:29:02.265-05:00Humble...That's the first word that comes to m...Humble...That's the first word that comes to my mind. I have a daughter who has a learning disability and it hasn't been easy. After her mom and I broke up a couple of years ago it has been hard to get my daughter the support that I knew she needed. She always just passed to the next grade but I knew something just wasn't right. After failing last year and myself fighting with the school to have her passed to the next grade was tough. I requested they pass her but with "services" from an IEP. I finally got the IEP but it has been tough. With virtually no help from her mother I have been fighting to help improve her education. It's not easy when I can only see her every other weekend. My only true wish is for her to be able to say one day: "Even though my mom and dad wasn't together, my dad was always there". Through it all, I'm Blessed. Blessed with the opportunity to care for a child, my child with a learning disability. I believe that God gave her to me because he believes that I am best fit to be a father to her. As hard as it is, I love the fact that she will know that daddy loves her no matter what. Thank you for having this blog and thank you to all who wants nothing simply more but just to be a loving parent. At this point I am not a person who goes to church regularly but what I do is that my God will never give you more than you can bear.chrisknox17https://www.blogger.com/profile/14664113274772111020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-20301662852924242202012-03-09T14:25:18.814-05:002012-03-09T14:25:18.814-05:00People can be so hateful on the Internet. You'...People can be so hateful on the Internet. You're right; they must be hurting. I am glad to see you rising above it. I'm sure it hurt you, but I hope that feeling won't last. :-)Beverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543690962370750842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-32770987286689869362012-03-09T14:18:15.067-05:002012-03-09T14:18:15.067-05:00Ellen,
I'll identify myself as Anonymous1, to...Ellen,<br /><br />I'll identify myself as Anonymous1, to make this convo slightly easier. I don't think you're naive, nor do I see your efforts to change the use of a word as existing in a vacuum. Please understand, I support your efforts to create discussion around the issue of how the term is used and to stand up for your son.<br /><br />My point is somewhat different. You told crabbylady that "the term "mental retardation" is an outdated (and pejorative) term." <br /><br />I'm curious if you've ever seen this article: <br /> http://www.slate.com/articles/life/the_good_word/2001/07/the_r_word.html<br /><br />It's a useful description of how doctors have struggled with and replaced various terms in an attempt to find words that *aren't* pejorative. Inevitably, what happens is that terms are adopted by the medical profession, become widely used, and are turned into insults. <br /><br />If the "retard" issue strikes too close to home, consider how the polite term to refer to "persons of color" has evolved since the 18th century. There was a time when "colored" was polite, as was "Negro." "Black" followed Negro in the late 60s/early 70s, and was supplemented (though not replaced) by "African-American."<br /><br />In every case, new words were created because old ones were seen as denegrating or belonging to an older generation that didn't identify with the needs/desires of the new.<br /><br />I'm not arguing that retard is a good word, because as you've stated, it has a pejorative meaning. My point is that in 20 years, we'll all be right back here again, arguing for a new change because the old one has become an insult. This sort of linguistic evolution doesn't confront the larger problem -- the real issue is what people <b>mean</b> when they say retard, or moron, or imbecile -- not an intrinsic characteristic of the word itself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com