tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post1493626802312729593..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : He does not want what he hasn't gotEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-51192849121623419442018-04-09T09:41:12.765-04:002018-04-09T09:41:12.765-04:00I love your blogs but this post in particular stru...I love your blogs but this post in particular struck me, too. I work in the special needs community and I consider myself a "social advocate". I run disAbility Awareness experiences around town called B'More Inclusive (Since we reside in Baltimore). The main message is to think about people who have special needs as a person first, get to know the person and find what you may have in common. The goal is to make friendship between typical kids and kids with special needs and mental illness by finding common ground. What do you and your readers think would be a good next step to bring this attitude to the fore? Yael Zelingerhttp://cjebaltimore.org/disabilityandinclusionnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-50564325657686030772018-04-08T10:47:31.436-04:002018-04-08T10:47:31.436-04:00This post really struck me. Friendships have eleva...This post really struck me. Friendships have elevated the good times and helped me through the tough times. But I didn’t form close friendships until high school, and feel that one or two friends is all a person really needs. Max is happy and considerate with a wonderful sense of humor. These are traits most people seek in friendships, so he’s already halfway there! Also, thanks for reminding us-the parents-that although we sometimes view our kids as extensions of us, they are not us. What makes us happy does not necessarily make our kids happy. Jane K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12879383531503997570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-1621886695367284342018-04-08T08:18:15.075-04:002018-04-08T08:18:15.075-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jane K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12879383531503997570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-76123283829160903212018-04-05T12:37:17.880-04:002018-04-05T12:37:17.880-04:00I struggle with this, too, because my 13yo has had...I struggle with this, too, because my 13yo has had very few close friends his own age of his own - partly because of the walls he puts up. Thank goodness for his older brother, a few amazing adults in our lives, and occasional cousin connection (which would happen more often if someone could invent a time machine and a teleporter). A therapist recently told my husband that it's ok if we're our son's best friends right now, so we've leanlea into that when he seeks connection with us.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing Max's struggles, his progress, and your thoughts & concerns. It helps me a lot.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13946993715054427085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-49128151983427131262018-04-04T23:33:24.594-04:002018-04-04T23:33:24.594-04:00Everything about you is so heroic Ellen. Don't...Everything about you is so heroic Ellen. Don't even sweat it. <br />It's interesting to see that Max took time to "get over it". It actually doesn't surprise me, he seems to be growing up into a balanced young adult especially in each new post. Hugs!Melissa Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03130838771811695287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-21228696393438412142018-04-04T19:01:44.917-04:002018-04-04T19:01:44.917-04:00Ellen, I can only say I feel your pain. A year bac...Ellen, I can only say I feel your pain. A year back we moved to a new country. It has been extremely tough for our son who has an intellectual disability and is on the autism spectrum. After a year, we still have no friends, and he keeps talking about his best friend back in Spain. I still don´t know how to help him, because he also has behavioural issues that make it difficult to organise play dates. On one hand he craves friendship, but at the same time he pushes, shouts and scares the other kids in his class. Work in progress, I know we will get there.Clarahttp://www.veryspecialtales.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-58001851093269867192018-04-04T13:11:15.028-04:002018-04-04T13:11:15.028-04:00Ellen it sounds like you are supporting Max in man...Ellen it sounds like you are supporting Max in many opportunities! I did not have close friendships until avout 10th grade. Max still has time and the right couple people who "stick". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com