tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post1152486937499777195..comments2024-03-28T03:35:52.176-04:00Comments on Love That Max : Hey, babysitter, don't charge me more for my child with special needsEllen Seidmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01433429847255621203noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-60308950727885392042020-01-26T01:39:19.377-05:002020-01-26T01:39:19.377-05:00$40 an hour that's the question is it worth pa...$40 an hour that's the question is it worth paying or not paying. I am a certified special education teacher with over 25 years experience working with special needs individuals from age 5 to 22. $40 an hour might be okay because you're paying for the experienced and knowledge this person has.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-47638500218029370732019-12-31T14:23:40.733-05:002019-12-31T14:23:40.733-05:00You’d be surprised how may parents try to foist th...You’d be surprised how may parents try to foist the other kids off on the nurse. I can tell you first hand as a home care nurse EVERY client I’ve had with siblings the parents expect you to entertain the siblings and think it’s perfectly ok to leave them at home alone because, after all, the nurse is there. 😆Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-80944038991034790362018-05-23T07:57:01.657-04:002018-05-23T07:57:01.657-04:00Respectfully, I feel like you’re being extremely d...Respectfully, I feel like you’re being extremely defensive. While in school I babysat a lot, families with children with special needs always paid more. It varied depending how much extra attention the special needs child needed. That was expected, I had to go through extra training and classes...you’re paying for good childcare. If you find someone who will take any amount of money for a special needs child, I would be concerned about the quality of care they’re getting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15481842604280754254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-46592949273484950742017-08-17T15:22:31.524-04:002017-08-17T15:22:31.524-04:00It seems that her attitude, and words were not rig...It seems that her attitude, and words were not right. On the other hand, the fact that, as I read below "I don't know any sitters that make that amount" or "whoa, that's a lot... we don't pay that much to our sitter when she was watching 6 kids"(thay one is abusive, by the way) "A nurse can charge you that" Doesn't mean it was not a fair amount.<br />I know people don't think of babysitting as a real job. Anyone charging you less than that, is just taking what the families are used or willing to pay because they need the money, but if you'd asked them how much they'd think their work should cost according to the amount of kids and needs they would get to tell you that 40 is a reasonable price. So, the sitter being ok by getting payed $25 for taking care of your kids, just needs the money. If you get a nurse ($40) She's not gonna babysit the rest of the kids, that's not her job and nobody would complain if she doesn't watch the rest of the kids, we take her job seriously right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-75183481228208198442016-10-19T20:07:46.911-04:002016-10-19T20:07:46.911-04:00I stumbled across this blog entry, and wanted to c...I stumbled across this blog entry, and wanted to chime in. Although I think $40 an hour for babysitting is very high, your sentiment of "don't charge me extra for my special needs kid" is either naive or arrogant. As a nanny for several special needs children, I absolutely charge "more" per hour. Why? They are more work. I have to do more and use special skills I wouldn't normally have to. The attention and care they require is usually well outside the scope of normal babysitter duties (ie. a non-infant/toddler who needs help with bathing, feeding, toilet, dressing). Same as caring for an infant costs more than an 8 year old. As with any other job, workers deserve to be compensated at a higher rate as their job duties increase on difficulty or responsibility. While other parents can hire the local teenager, those with a special needs child who actually requires extra care don't have that option, and experienced help commands a higher rate. It's not a critique of you or your kid, it's business.Jayjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13047550723595947493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-68865066769863743882016-01-17T11:48:04.542-05:002016-01-17T11:48:04.542-05:00$40/hour for 3 children, one of whom is an infant ...$40/hour for 3 children, one of whom is an infant and one of whom DOES require more attention than is usual for a child his age isn't out of line.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-62797516502606036072016-01-09T21:46:41.689-05:002016-01-09T21:46:41.689-05:00I once told the mother of a girl I babysat for tha...I once told the mother of a girl I babysat for that I would charge her $40/hour if she didn't hide the Barbie DVDs before the next time I came over, but that was just to cover the therapy I'd need afterwards. Jeez.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04491414735672741853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-35219642720795943652016-01-07T18:34:51.863-05:002016-01-07T18:34:51.863-05:00This is why I gave up on finding a nanny for my bo...This is why I gave up on finding a nanny for my boys, one of which was 1.5yo with a g tube at the time. I couldn't afford full time care at $40/hour! Thank goodness the local center accepted him and isn't charging me extra.<br /> <br /> Ridiculous!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17312836542709163886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-48048488349542727302016-01-07T13:03:32.889-05:002016-01-07T13:03:32.889-05:00If you're using an extensive range of speciali...If you're using an extensive range of specialized equipment, I could see why the extra expenses would apply. If not, then they should not apply. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-41811610426355728492016-01-07T11:29:57.868-05:002016-01-07T11:29:57.868-05:00My kids attended an in-home daycare from the time ...My kids attended an in-home daycare from the time they were newborns until they entered school. Our daycare lady charged less for kids over age 2. When our daughter, who has significant and challenging medical needs, turned 2, I asked our daycare lady if she wanted me to continue paying the infant rate, since my girl needed a lot of extra care. I will never forget what she said to me — she told me that she does not believe in charging more for special needs kids because she feels that's discriminatory. BLESS HER.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-72911783340641955222016-01-06T22:59:39.206-05:002016-01-06T22:59:39.206-05:00I've never ASKED for more than $10 an hour. I ...I've never ASKED for more than $10 an hour. I have a couple of degrees in education and 30 years experience as a sitter, nanny, ICF level direct care provider, educator, and respite provider.<br /><br />When I care for a child with special needs AND their sib(s) it depends on the age of the sibs if the parents paid me for the sibs. However, they aren't paying out of pocket for the child with special needs. Even then, the TOTAL has never been over $20. (Granted, most are very generous in other ways: meals while caring for their child, money for community outings that more than covers the cost of the outing, gifts, etc.) <br /> <br />Now that a couple of my respite buddies are over 18 and considered adults by the state, I get paid $10-15 an hour. <br /><br />I learned from a friend in IN, that workers/care providers paid through Medicaid are prohibited from accepting ANYTHING from the home/family (meals, snacks, drinks, nothing), which I think is kinda crazy too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-5508336903887922912016-01-06T20:56:33.096-05:002016-01-06T20:56:33.096-05:00Maybe your area is particularly expensive, but in ...Maybe your area is particularly expensive, but in my experience an operator at a chemical plant gets paid $30-35 to keep chlorine in the pipes instead of wiping out a community. There are people that get paid $40/hour? Gee whiz.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-66770901097994990532016-01-06T17:51:50.423-05:002016-01-06T17:51:50.423-05:00Good grief! One of the pluses to a small town in N...Good grief! One of the pluses to a small town in NC is that someone making 20 dollars an hour would be like winning the lottery. My boys were preemies and have chronic lung disease. Our sitters have not batted an eye at administering a lot of medication. I have never considered paying extra and no one has ever asked. We always just pay the going rate. Everything you are asking isn't crazy. The baby is a lot more work than Max. The "kids like him" comment would disqualify her anyway...J and Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07147409535803634540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-18693304038220033332016-01-06T15:44:16.640-05:002016-01-06T15:44:16.640-05:00Is this for all 3 kids or just Max? Because you ca...Is this for all 3 kids or just Max? Because you can understand it being high for 3 kids including a baby but not just for Max! People sometimes Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392626811425787266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-41593301278453527332016-01-06T13:39:16.318-05:002016-01-06T13:39:16.318-05:00Did she want 40$ an hour to watch all 3 children o...Did she want 40$ an hour to watch all 3 children or 40$ for Fireman Max and a separate amount for Sabrina & Ben? 40 divided by 3 is about 13.33 per child which I would think is fair but if she said 40$ for just Fireman Max that is outrageous. Carlanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-46135094694472188532016-01-06T12:24:55.834-05:002016-01-06T12:24:55.834-05:00$40 or even $30 an hour is outrageous. I don't...$40 or even $30 an hour is outrageous. I don't know your son, but from what you've described above (what the sitters additional responsibilities would be re: Max) the care he requires is in no way out of the ordinary. Perhaps more in line with a child younger than Max, but he isn't requiring potential emergency medical intervention. I live in an area that - outside of Manhattan - is arguably among the most expensive in the tri-state and a babysitter asking for $40 an hour would be dismissed as unreasonable. Yes, they do have a 'right' to set their own price, but trying to gouge a special needs parent is beyond despicable and speaks to the character of the sitter. $20 an hour perhaps with a $5 an hour add on for an infant is fairly in line for the attention you described Max needing. If you do not require a person to have special medical training, or if you aren't combining sitting with therapy, absolutely no need to pay that high. I'm mad that somebody even asked you for that, and honestly, annoyed that the comment above seemed to think that was even a little okay. Maybe you need somebody more than the average teenager next door (to shower Max) but there are plenty of women who would appreciate the work at $20-25/hour. If you took the shower off the table, an older teenager would be perfectly appropriate especially if you were close to home or it were a short outing.njmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875644900570009106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-58600669073295008142016-01-06T12:22:43.959-05:002016-01-06T12:22:43.959-05:00I don't know of a babysitter that makes that a...I don't know of a babysitter that makes that amount. I know as a registered nurse I could make that or more an hour but I also have a registered nurse license and do not babysit patients. I am not sure where you live but if you live near or are in a college area maybe you could find a college student that is a special education major to help out from time to time?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02964579786286001872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-81568734574045640412016-01-06T11:23:53.112-05:002016-01-06T11:23:53.112-05:00In our area a traveling NURSE not just a caregiver...In our area a traveling NURSE not just a caregiver can command about $40 an hour. I know this for a fact as I worked in a skilled long term facility. No babysitter would get paid that amount here. No matter how many children, special needs or not, infant or not, she was watching.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15698048718456255433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-33564678764307985332016-01-06T11:01:16.017-05:002016-01-06T11:01:16.017-05:00$40 an hour? WHOA! That's a lot of money. We d...$40 an hour? WHOA! That's a lot of money. We didn't even pay our sitter that much when she was watching 6 kids (ours and our friend's- though 4 of the 6 kids really only needed a warm body in the house). <br /><br />I do have to more carefully consider who is watching my kids when my special kiddo will be there, too, and as such, I take it into account that having a sitter who can handle him is probably going to mean paying a bit more than if someone where just watching my other two. Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-80937662509355739182016-01-06T10:53:20.154-05:002016-01-06T10:53:20.154-05:00While her attitude may need some adjustment, and s...While her attitude may need some adjustment, and she in particular seemed to be price-gouging, our special-needs children do, in fact, need special attention. Helping a 13 year old shower and administering medicine are not typical baby-sitter activities. Since you would not hire the average teenage girl down the street to care for Max (nor would I to care for my special-needs kiddos), I would expect to pay a bit more for more qualified help - though the price this woman was going to charge you was excessive, unless she was coming as a qualified nurse! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-35390224711730469492016-01-06T10:49:55.092-05:002016-01-06T10:49:55.092-05:00Most sitters I've encountered have a base rate...Most sitters I've encountered have a base rate and then there's an add on for each extra kid, and additional addons for a baby or toddler because they are legitimately significantly more work then the average "kid". I've always felt that was pretty reasonable, and not price discrimination. The sitter has the right to set a price based on the amount of work she's likely to face for that evening.<br />I'd assume the actual numbers would likely very pretty widely depending on the location... but you have 3 kids, one of whom is an infant. I personally wouldn't be surprised at all about a price of $30.00 an hour or maybe more (again though, you'd know far better what's normal in your area). <br />Referring repeatedly to "kids like him" though... that's just not right.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03567879545739166942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401303964563152307.post-38216884626594918082016-01-06T10:41:33.496-05:002016-01-06T10:41:33.496-05:00Price discrimination Price discrimination Nishahttp://nishav360.com/noreply@blogger.com