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Thursday, October 24, 2013
My husband's so negative about our child with special needs: Help another mom out
A friend going through a tough time asked me to post her question here; she'd like to get as many perspectives as possible from other parents of kids with special needs so please, read and share your thoughts. "My husband's negativity is really hard to deal with. He refuses to get hopeful about anything regarding our two-year-old, who has developmental delays. I was recently showing him a new app and getting really excited about using it with her and all I got from him was, "IF she can use it." We got her a tea set for the holidays this year and his comment was, "She'll NEVER be able to understand how to use it." Pretty much everything regarding her needs and future is like this with him. I know he's being defensive and doesn't want to get his hopes up in case she truly is unable to do something, but it's not fair to her to have to prove everything to him. It's also exhausting to be her only cheerleader. I'm seeing a therapist, but he refuses to. How can I involve him—and show him that every teeny step made is huge progress?"